I'm relieved to say that in the main I cope very well with not having children. Today however, after many years I had an appointment with the gynaecologist. After 2 weeks of worrying about my health, I was met by the most insensitive doctor. She asked in a matter of fact fashion if I knew my tubes were blocked etc. I felt myself regressing to a hospital appt 10 years earlier when I was routinely advised that the only way I would get pregnant was by IVF. I'm sad to say that the detached, scientific approach to my life left me feeling quite devastated in addition to my physical health issues. My friends are great and supportive but those of us who have been through the trauma know just how traumatic these things can be in a world where infertility continues to be taboo.