Unexpected confusion

[Am1967]

I accepted I wouldn't have birth children many years ago (well I thought I did) but recently I've found out that my adopted daughter is pregnant and it's made me feel confused and sad for what I've never had..... I'm struggling with this in a way I never thought I would....

[Infertility-hurts]

Dear Am1967

It must have been hard to post that and I certainly admire your honesty....

Personally I feel Infertility is like a scar which one can always feel when something presses on it..... I don't think you can help how you feel but I suppose your daughter is now welcoming your granddaughter and thats a blessing which has "overcome" infertility....

That's my thoughts and I hope they are of some use,

Take care

[MrsCMA]

It's difficult. I don't think it's something anyone ever overcomes. I hope you can find a way through this sadness. Maybe take some time to focus on yourself for a while. Do things you enjoy. I just try to keep busy. I'm sure you are going to have many joyous days with your granddaughter. X

[Buddlescuddles1]

My husband and I helped raise our two nephews when their mum walked out on them. When the eldest one and his girlfriend were expecting their first baby I was shocked at the old emotions that re-surfaced - even to the point of not meeting their daughter until she was nearly nine months old. Eventually, she is now three, with a second one on the way, I think it's about accepting my own situation again and even grieving once more for the babies I didn't have