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Ups and downs of infertility

Hi all, I'm new to this forum. I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure 3 years ago. I'm now 39. I'm tryingto cope with friends and family having babies and getting married and some expecting their second children. I'm the eldest of 3 kids. My youngest sister had a baby 5 months ago and my brother had his 2 weeks ago. I'm beyond devastated and sad for myself. Why me?it seems my life is getting harder. I've been single for a long couple of years through no fault of my own. I just meet time wasters. I don't have anyone I can share my feelings with. I am beyond lonely even though I have friends butI've distanced myself from everyone especially my friends with kids. I just can't face it. I have my good days but it's a roller coaster of emotions. I'm scared of ending up partner less and childless. Sorry, today is just a bad day and I had to get this off my chest. Thanks for reading xx

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Hi welcome to the forum,sorry your having a bad time at the moment everyone on here has been through similar situations. Can't be easy with your siblings just having children themselves. Where do you live? It sounds like you need to meet up with someone to talk things through. Try and keep strong 💪 You will find a decent man 👨 eventually

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Hi. It's so hard isn't it. I'm the eldest and have seen my sibling have children. I love them dearly but it's never the same as having your own. I have just had a hysterectomy due to very severe surgery endometriosis and have suffered severe complications. I too have watched my friends have children and go on to make new friends through them. I rarely see those people now. It's very isolating and only those in the same situation, for similar reasons can understand.

I hope you are able to talk to someone to try to help you. Xxx


Hi, I only joined today and my post is very similar to your own. When I failed my ivf and returned to work we had the highest rate of pregnancy announcements the business has ever had at one time. My best friend became pregnant , my ex was to become a dad. A few of these people didn't want to be parents and I felt why can't I be and they are? It's really hard. I can't offer you advice ( I wish I could) as I'm struggling myself. I can say your not alone in how your feeling. I take a bit of comfort in the fact that I'm also not alone I feeling this way too.


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