Feeling alone in my relationship

[TruthSeeker18]

My relationship is a very loving and healthy one but recently it's hit a dry spell. We've been together for 2 years and 7 months and I already know that after our 3 year he'll propose. I can't wait for that and I can't wait to marry him. But what's happening is making me look at all that differently. He loves playing video games (on his computer not so much on his console). He's always playing with his friends because A. It's his way of spending time with his friend since he never really sees them in person for months at a time and B. Video games are his only hobby right now. He doesn't have anything else he likes to do in his free time. He says he wants other hobbies and even says wants his life to have purpose because he feels like it doesn't. I try to help but he never wants to take my advice. Anyway the point is he loves playing with his friends but he loves it so much he does it often at my expense. We don't live together so I spend the weekend with him at his house. He has all week to himself before I come over and I even try not to text him too much so he has space from me to really be on his own. But when I come over for the week I want his undivided attention. More often than not he's playing with his friends and I'm stuck having to just sit on his bed and entertain myself. When he's playing he barely even looks away from his screen even just to look at me and see that I'm okay or what I'm doing. When he's playing, I can't get his attention unless I actually tap on his shoulder, I could drop d**d while he's playing and he wouldn't even notice until probably 15 minutes later. He only finally comes over to watch his tv with me or cuddle with me when he's done with playing for the day or for a while but by the time that happens I no longer want to cuddle or do anything with him or even look at him because I'm so upset. I've lost a lot of people and I've been through a lot of terrible things in my life. If there's anything I've been taught it's that life is short and that you need to fully appreciate the people you love because you never know when be gone just like that. So needless to say I want to spend as much time with him as possible and really give this relationship my all. But at times it feels like it's not the same on his end. This isn't even the first time this sort of thing has happened. On our 1 year anniversary I spent the night with him when he was still living with his parents at the time. He was good about spending most of the day together until the evening came. His friends asked him to play and he did. Leaving me alone on his bed for hours on our anniversary. Our special day, the entirety of which should been spent together just the two of us and he chose to play with his friends. He couldn't let go of all that for just one day. He apologized profusely and made it up to me but I still feel hurt by it especially now that it's become a pattern. There's no point in me being here with him if he's going to leave me alone for hours at a time to my own devices while he goes to play with his friends or even play on hid own just to play. If he doesn't want to spend time with me at all, or even he just wants to spend less time with me and thinks that we need some space between us I wish he would just tell me. But that's a problem too. He won't tell me if he really needs something from me in our relationship until he's kept it bottled up for so long that he just can't hide it anymore. I talk to him about everything but he can't do the same. He has trouble talking about his feelings in general but I would hope that the one person he can feel safe enough to open up to would be me. But I guess not. And I don't even know if it's my fault because he wouldn't tell me if it was. I know that the initial spark in a relationship tends to die a little over time. You're not as crazy about each other as you were in the beginning and the big roaring flame you had between you is now more like a low flame on the stove over a long period. It's always there and it's always burning but you don't feel very much warmth from it. But that's not how I am though. I am a passionate person through and through. I give all my relationships everything I have. When I love someone I love them hard, and that doesn't change over time no matter how long I'm with someone. Things have happen to make me love someone less or make me stop putting as much into a relationship as I was when it started. But if that just happens I just walk away. It's not fair to either people in a relationship if one person or both people are loving each other less and making less of an effort. I'm a very dedicated romantic partner and anyone who gets with me is very lucky. But none of that feels like the case for him and I feel unappreciated. I just needed to get this off my chest and it already feels better doing so. If anyone has any advice for me I would greatly appreciate it. I feel like I'm losing my mind here.

[Rupertthebear]

well I think you have summed it up well . I don’t know if he has some learning disability , sounds like he has . You seem articulate and have a good sense of awareness.

[Cookie2217]

Hi there. You have only been with your boyfriend for 2 years and several months and already he's treating you horribly by ignoring you constantly to play games with his friends on the TV forget that I would be so out of there so quickly you don't need this relationship and should have a long talk with your boyfriend and lay it on the line quite frankly and say if you don't make me a priority I'm gone. Tell him that you feel hurt that he's always ignoring you and playing video games with his friends while you're there and ask him to make time for you. If he changes than give him a chance to prove himself to you if he doesn't change then why put up with that and if you're going to get married it's not going to change. He'll bring those games along too. I've been married to my husband for 18 years and I had a kiss a lot of frogs before marrying my prince. My husband Paul makes me his first priority tells me he loves me every single day and how pretty I am which makes me feel so good. You are worth a lot more than what you are getting out of this relationship and deserve a lot better than what you're getting right now and unfortunately what you will get in the future. Please make yourself a priority and want more for yourself than to be with someone who is selfish and doesn't put you first as he should ok. You are enough and worthy of having a man truly loves you and who want to spend with you instead of playing video games. I wish you peace and well-being.