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Tips on not stressing about losing a loved one

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I am almost constantly sad or stressed out over losing a loved one. I am so afraid to lose my mom one day it is genuinely my worst fear. I do not know what I would do without her she is my rock, my person, my best friend. I know I am supposed to just enjoy my time with her now but it just makes me so sad knowing one day I won't have her. She almost passed away many times when I was in 6th grade due to a traumatic brain injury so I am not sure if that could be adding to my fear. I just wish I could stop thinking about it. Any tips?

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Very sad to listen about that but one thing to know about life is GOD'S PLAN we all have to accept and maintain self happiness with conscience center of GOD name and that's only the life is...

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Shawmind

Have you tried to work out why you are feeling this way? There seems to be some underlying, continuing trauma from what happened in the 6th grade. You really should go and speak to a mental health professional about that. Dealing with this in a positive, proactive way may well help you overcome the fear and stop thinking about the possibility of losing your mom all the time. That said, loss is always painful and as part of the normal course of life, we will lose our parents one day. But live in the now, appreciate every moment you spend with your mom. Think of the good times, try and dwell on the positives.

Rocky

It is always best with people around us, friends and family is live for the day. It is not unusual you feel the way you do, as a teen I would be the same and I came to the conclusion that as long as we love these friends and family and also help them through their Life in general that is all you or those around you can expect.

Since I was eighteen I was expected to look after my Aged Grandparents and Aunts and Uncles. This became more intense when their health became more of a worry. I did what was required, I visited in hospital and Nursing Home etc also I was dealing with hospitals, nursing homes and arranging appointments with the Undertakers etc, Then I handed over for other family members to arrange the funeral etc. I was more interested in the living, I handed back responsibility.

One occasions I would look after their garden and make their Sunday Dinner when they were living at home. Yes they died, although I was given the chance of knowing them. I learned a great deal. When they died I had done all I could for them so I was not sad . However I felt their gratitude and thanks.

We cannot really do anything regard loved ones demise, as long as we feel we were there for them. Try not to be fearful if the problem persists talk to YOUR Doctor and explain how you feel. We all go through life and know we will be taken at a time agreed, we cannot prevent that so live and love the day with those around you. Be happy

BOB

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Hello RockyIt sounds like you were scared of losing your mum years ago and your mind has latched onto it.

I say this cos when I was 14 a woman told me to appreciate my mum cos she could be taken from me and could have an accident.

I kept checking mum's breathing in the middle of the night.

Hope you are not stressing too much. I know you love your mum.

Love and hugs

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