Losing a Pet

[gkskfangs]

Sorry if this post is irrelevant, I just need to write this out.

Recently, one of my pets died of sickness. It was really hard for me, because she had been with me for almost 5 years. She's my first pet that is very dear to me. She took her last breath in my palm, so I basically witnessed her going away. I took my rants to a friend (after contemplating for the whole day bc I seriously don't want to bug anyone about it, it's just an animal to some people).

That friend responded for awhile, so I kind of get the assurance to keep going on. I was glad someone would hear me out. But then I was left on read. Nothing else from that person. Weeks (yes, weeks) after that, still no reply. I kind of get it. Nobody wants to hear me, after all. I was angry at myself for not just keeping it to myself, and feel humiliated at the same time. I also felt disappointed towards that friend.

A long while after that, that person got back to me. Life has been hard on their side, and things had been difficult. I figured out what the situation was about since we've been friends for years.

And now I feel even more guilty. I shouldn't have talked about my problems to anyone. My ranting that day must have troubled that friend, who was having a rough time and yet i was babbling about the death of a pet, which is nothing compared to other bigger problems.

It feels heavy, in me. I haven't been grieving properly since the day my pet was gone bc i don't want to be engulfed in all the memories and the pain. I still need to function for work and for my family. I'm ignoring it for as long as I could. Because if I start crying about it, I have nowhere to go to. I need to get over with it.

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Loosing a Pet can be very upsetting, before we got Pax I had a Terrier, He was a Pat dog and would sit on my knee when I was Information Officer for a Mental Health Day Centre.

The dog had stepped into brake fluid that leaked out a car on the footpath, the fluid dissolved the nail and the dog later lost the toe and developed a very aggressive Cancer. He died at thirteen and it was a real loss for those in the centre. Just because a person was parked outside our gate on the footpath.

The loss can knock us all back they become part of the Family as they weave their charms into our hearts. You have nothing to regret regards your friend it is just a shame that your loss happened the way it did. You need to grieve for your loss and pick yourself up and remember the good times with your family member, your Pet

BOB

[gkskfangs in reply to Hidden]

I'm sorry to hear about the dog. He must've been a lovely dog to be loved by everyone in the centre.

Thank you for the warm reply. I figured I'm still stuck in the denial stage, it's hard to bring myself to actually feel and grieve. All those good times are hard to remember. Hopefully I'll slowly gain strength to do so, soon.

[Hidden in reply to gkskfangs]

You will eventually get over the loss, it will be difficult, give yourself time before going out and getting another.

We went on two holidays before we visited a Dog Trust Centre and chose Pax. He is a Border Collie Cross, He is very bright and sad to say He is not a Pat Dog, although He loves everyone and can be a bit over the top. He has just gone out for His walk.

He decides where He wants to go, My Wife follows.

Keep a Hold

BOB

[dillydally1]

hi,

I lost my dog jack 14 months ago (he is the one on the left of my picture). he was 17 years old. jack was a rescue dog and he was loved so much, he was very gentle and everyone that met him, loved him. he also died in my arms and I still miss him to this day.. Our other dog is meg and she is 7 years old.

you will never forget your pet, try to think of the happy times with your pet. not everyone knows how bad it is to lose a pet unless they have one. the feelings you have were perfectly normal. a pet is with you 24/7 so there is a big hole when they are gone. I know a lot of pet owners say losing your pet is as hard as losing a family member. all loss is hard. you need to cry even if your on your own it's part of grieving. time is a healer. please take care x

[gkskfangs in reply to dillydally1]

thanks for the warm words. i'm slowly able to accept the loss, although i have several times called for her name unnoticed. she's been part of my life, that's why.

thanks again, and sorry for a late response despite your long and thoughtful comment.

[Merriwink]

Dogs are like family! I can’t imagine what it would be like losing one of my dogs.

Friends are meant to be there for each other to help through these tough times, no matter how unimportant it is to them. You are not a burden if you want to talk about your problems to them.

If you ever need to talk to someone about your dog, I’m only a message away!

[gkskfangs in reply to Merriwink]

it couldn't be helped, none of my friends are pet owners so it's hard to completely confide into someone.

and thanks, gosh, i truly appreciate your offer. sorry for this late reply though despite your warm response.

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I like other still talk about Pip, we have His Ashes in the wardrobe and when we both go His Ashes will be buried with us.

We have been out today and we passed the church where the four of us, me, Hazel, Pip and Pax will be buried with us. They are part of our family, we have no children so the dogs are our children. I know many would feel we are silly. We do not think so.

We have been shopping today and afterwards we took Pax on the beach to play so He is now fast asleep on His cool pad. The dog lies on the pad and it cools them down, really good we got two for ourselves to rest the laptops on or put them under the pillow at night.

I hope all works well for you and eventually get another family member in the near future.

Keep a hold

BOB