All emotions

My mum takes out all her emotions on me Sometimes I get bursts of anger, frustration or negative emotions thrown at me. She is scary but I stay calm. Today she took it out on carer of my son and I told her he was getting very stressed Later over the phone she apologised. She is used to these emotions and my Dad argues with her and they continue to argue. I just keep quiet but I have problems to which she does not consider She goes to full range of negative emotions

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I know she is amazing because she takes all burdens and problems but can she be positive?

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The problems you are having is a form of abuse, so there is no reason why you should put up with this activity. You need to talk to your Mother abut it and explain how you feel. Sometimes it is better to walk away and protect yourself from this unpleasant situation you find yourself in

What you can try is explain how you feel and when this happens again explain to Her about how you feel regards these outbursts. There is no excuse for this and you will not put up with these outbursts. There are no excuses If your Mother does not understand why She does this she needs to talk to her Doctor

Has your Mother anything on Her Mind to support this problem, she is out of control and needs help. Although remember there are no excuses

Is there problems at home between mother and daughter ? They will need to be addressed in a calm way

BOB

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I feel she relies on my brother for moral support and he is good talker and always manages to win her to his side but with me I am reserved and quiet. It sometimes irritates her that I do not talk as much as my brother. She has seen his nature of coping and mine just keeping quiet. But lately she seems to be doing these outbursts where she is coping with our problems and troubles. I agree she needs something to calm her down and doctor would have been good option but she won't treat it as abnormal or over stress. The more I think about it I feel if someone else is there she finally manages to calm down and apologize - I will minimize damage by staying out of her company at the time she does this. I am getting used as punching bag? Whereas my brother she has laugh with

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Personally if I thought the family member knew they were upsetting me I would just walk away and leave her to it. Try not too visit or contact her for an extended period you need to be able to respect yourself.

In my case I left it to long and before my Dad died He wanted me to stop visiting them, He would come and see me when in my area at home. Like a fool I folded and started to visit again after my Father died, That was a big error and both my Wife and I was called all the swear words, some I did not even know. I eventually moved away and had nothing to do with my family for quite a few years.

Personally I am not suggesting above to you all I am saying generally if family is being unkind and is cursing and swearing at you you need to respect yourself, if it means you do not see her for a couple of months so be it. Some family members can in some cases can pull you down and stamp all over you and this needs to stop or they can really affect your self worth and that can in many ways destroy you

BOB

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Hugs, so sorry you went through so much - in my situation I get support but not love and I am my dad’s carer so I have to stay in this relationships

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You seem to be very caring I was always would look after relatives and family when I was younger and my immediate family where not really bothered. It got to the stage where I lost feeling when we lost someone.I was only interested to do the right thing. In my case the last time I looked after someone I made sure the person was looked after by the State and I would interact with the Nursing home and arrange funerals etc. After that I walked away from my Mother, relatives and that was it.

Try to remain caring, sometimes it is so very hard, in my case it made me so very cold to those around me.

My condition started in my teens now at seventy it feels I was robbed

BOB