Caring for Dad

But he is losing his memory, forget, can't tell whether it is night or day and forgets whether he has eaten. Won't be putting him in Care home or mental hospital, is what he is scared of. We look after him well. Just worrying.

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How old is your Father,?? It does not mean He has dementia when above happens

I am seventy and I needed tests about two or three years ago, The tests are extensive and my problems were put down to my Mental Health also Viral Meningitis. Yes I am getting worse it seem and it drives my Wife mad when I fail to listen. However I keep to my interests and hobbies, I was also checked regards driving and they say I am ok.

Have the tests done your Doctor will arrange for a team to visit him like they did with me, sometimes if we are on certain drugs that can make the problem worse etc.

Why do you feel the need for a nursing home. Talk to your Dads Doctor ???

BOB

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We said we will never send him to Care home but he is still scared - I think this is happening because he is borderline diabetic and too less or too much sugar affects his memory but we are very careful with his diet and medication for diabetes - we will care for him as long as we can

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I know both my Wife and I have not been getting our Tests done for our Diabetes and that does concern us. Talk to your Surgery regard Diabetic Reviews, our test have all gone by the board and things may get out of hand. I would personally fight tooth and nail not to end up in a nursing home at this time. Have you a bottle of urine strips to check His urine etc, is He taking insulin, When was He in for the last review

BOB

[kenster1]

sorry to hear that hopefully you get some help if needed being a carer for a relative is hard going.make sure you can get your own space even for an hour or two.

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Can still manage things - so won't be sending him to care home and taken deeply to look after own self, too - have to look after autistic son who is in supported living - have to provide him with cooked food and activities for him (drawings for him to colour in)

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I just said A prayer for your father,

Chris

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Thank you so very much

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Also said a short Prayer for your autistic son!!

Oh my Goodness you have so much to deal with !

Chris

Catman22

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Thank you once again , means the world to me

[Shnookie]

Hi I'm Shnookie. I was a caregiver for elderly people for people who had dementia from

12/2018 til COVID hit in March of this year. Obviously, I'm not sure if your father has dementia, but there R things that U can do to brighten up his spirits. U can take your cell phone or if someone has an instrument and play music for your father that he remembers from his youth. See if U can sing along with him. Also large piece crossword puzzles R very good for mind stimulation and a feeling of accomplishment. It's advisable if he can do the puzzle with someone else and then the other person can help him as well. For every piece that connects together give him encouragement it will give him a feeling of accomplishment.

If I come up with other ideas, I will reply to U again. I know how challenging this can be and then U need to attend to the needs of your son as well. U need to do some self care and see if someone can take over for a little while. Yes we R in the time of COVID but a little quiet time for yourself will be healing.

I'm in your corner Hugs Shnookie

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I looked after several relatives that suffered Dementia and I found that having sing songs and looking at family photographs together seemed to help keep them in an aware and active move seemed to work. They can also do exercises while sitting. Sometimes if you can get books with pictures from earlier times also seemed to open their thoughts and experiences. Family photographs also help them to remember better days and past holidays.

We need to be patient with them on their journey of past discoveries

It is a long hard thing to watch however aged memories seem on occasions to work as well

I found it really difficult, my family and associated relatives, even friends did not want to contribute and help, I feel a great deal was fear. The saying There by the grace of God go I can also come into the problem and that seemed to disgust me.

BOB