I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO AM LONELY

[MrRigatoni]

I am on my own constantly do not know how to start again make new friends.

On forum and community websites, do not know how to approach scared frightened .

Just do not know what to think no one cares.

[Tiggerakafidgity]

Hi mr R

Hi ya.

That’s part of life I’m afraid for a lot of ppl.

How long have you felt lonely for may I ask ?

We’re you not lonely once ?

[MrRigatoni in reply to Tiggerakafidgity]

Hello pleased to meet you. I hope your OK.

I have been on my own a long time. Any one can and could be me simple story.

Had addiction history had to move away because get near or get effected relapsed again many simply continued what would you do ??? As been clean sorted other friends some have died.

Refuse to do so included in the life I have former girlfriends partners as I do advise on alcoholism and addiction, all the time.

One gets hold and no one ever listens to you time to say good bye, even social lifelines used to chat bit more interested in dumping me wanting the next hit.

Tired of this time to stand up sort yourself out I holler sad poignant how do you say to some one whom you love. Cope get help and be like me.

I am the enemy the success. In the addiction one to look up to maybe but not the case been slandered pilloried and hurt abused by those wishing to continue.

Second lost a former friend because of his attitudes towards me . Mate crime door mat syndrome only rang wanted desired needed any thing I have.

I am a Christian know have the qualities to be friends but has to be equal surely. Not nice being put upon being used.

Last time his wife was seriously ill gave help and advice not no thank you support.

One other irked me a lot.

Who goes on holiday in massive debt has two homes low paid job and rings me up saying broke needs this and that lies to me.

Priority is blasé and this situation does not help used to text him a few times. Silence no one replies then comes back with a reply a lot later .

I am organised structured person . Everything has a place a purpose.

I do understand others plight and issues only support and advise others on forums community websites.

Met some members who decided I was not their friends insinuations made up stories lied and was forced to resign.

How do you deal with that ???

Made many friends on the website .

Now no one.

So how do I move on frightened scared cold every day chills constantly.

Applied to new websites and social ones for weeks talked to no one .

You the same , be a pleasure to chat.

[Sharrie]

I know exactly what you mean, I am in the same shitty way!!! This is the place to start, well done you xx

[MrRigatoni in reply to Sharrie]

Hello pleased to meet you how are you.?

Thank you for sharing, mentioned my story.

Previous post never one to go on about my situation need to say though.

Are you the same ??

Love to chat anytime.

[Hidden]

Hello and Welcome

There are many people here that will give you support, here you are not alone

BOB

[MrRigatoni in reply to Hidden]

Hello thank you for that.

Much appreciated just finding it hard.

Spent many hours days and long in to the night helping those like myself on a community forum.

Now finding it a struggle to cope dealing with an empty life.

Why do people do that cause problems make it up lie and no one believes me , need to say done nothing wrong.

Thank you for listening.

[Hidden]

Sometimes I wonder why, people we try to help, although not here take assistance offered and perk themselves up. They then try to make us sound bad in front of others for no real reason. I was very marked when I was doing Community work many years ago. However I suppose now many people have ulterior motives and cannot stop themselves with their attitude to others who have helped them.

It is generally fine here although sometimes I wonder what would happen if I became ill and asked for help. All very sobering.

BOB

[MrRigatoni in reply to Hidden]

Hello thank you for reply it happens a lot on other forums.

I had many experiences finally had to say to the Team running the site.

Please ask them why have they come on the forum if not wanting help and just start using language not suitable for a forum.

Could fill an exercise book and probably could you the amount of times spent trying to help be supportive and then get slandered abused and mistreated by either a member or even worse all the comments from others.

Members who have long term mental health addiction are suddenly confronted with the reality.

Often have to be offering as I do compassion, empathy sensitivity yet still protest cause disruption constantly on the website like a record continue to say their problems.

Have answered advised help offered listened and in the end asked Team to intervene.

The volunteer has already answered you and given you the information you need to be told critical and insinuations followed.

Then insist make a complaint then are removed all very sad as they need help.

Who have need to say made their policy to join a forum to cause pain hurt harm to others does happen, been doing this a while.

Even those attitudes the amount of times had in most of the forums asked can I put a post up on respect self esteems, honour kindness and please think of others posting.

To be confronted my responses with hijacking of my post with photos of nothing particular all not even connected or even worse adding irrelevant comments.

I spend my time now wondering still why it is jealousy is it just being nasty quite horrific some others are to each other on forums.

Understand and hope this is not like those , please not.

One other disappointed a lot of the time various forums been volunteering past and these so called want to be a volunteer but never see them.

Have respect valued time for me . As you have done. Pleasure to talk to you.

I apologise if I get depressed like this and angry but since when something happens like this what do you do am helpless.

Thank you.

Please take care

[Hidden]

We are who we are that is what generally makes us what we are.

I remember in my early days, mid sixties I was a Road Safety Lecturer, I did all my training and was taking my Classes in Schools. I was sent a list of schools I had to attend, My Father had opened my post and filed them away, that made me loose my position, what a waste of time. I was seventeen at the time. Yes I was young, I really was upset. So if family can do that what hope is there. I was made to sound I was wrong. So now I have learned to be insular in my outlook and generally keep my own council.

I have been here many years now and generally been very happy, If people have something to offer fantastic, the more the better as long as we do not have a go at each other. You may enjoy this site

BOB