Depression is real

[Passeng]

Hello as atm I'm feeling down,don't know wat to do my partner and I we been together for 6 yrs n 6months..

So today my boyfriend found out I was cheating on him he raised hes hand on me kick me out of the house and told me he doesn't want me anymore.I was wrong but at the end of the day still love him we happy couple most of the time and I don't want to end our relationship..he told me he was planning to put a ring on my finger and help me with my school..I miss him alot I don't know what to do..I just need to get back together with him and start fresh...

[Hidden]

He clearly does not want to be with you, if he kicked you out. You should meet someone who is good for you and that you can trust, trust in the fact that such a relationship is possible. In the meantime, try to stay with reality and move on..you should not stay in the past. Take time for yourself and enjoy the things you like. Use this time to get over the relationship, you have your freedom, to find someone else

[Passeng in reply to Hidden]

I'm sure everything would be ok just let him calm down

[Hidden]

If "he raised his hand on u" as he said n how im reading it...NOT A GOOD SITUATION".Distance yourself from him,fix "u" and then move on n meet someone else.

I would keep the police on speed dial just in case..no matter if u did indeed cheat on him.

[Hidden]

If you have been unfaithful as you describe, do you not feel He have every right to be peeved and upset

I have been married forty years and we have never been unfaithful, that is part of being in love. We are one, if one had gone of with another person that would be it, goodbye !!!!

We work on trust, that is why we got married. You need to talk, although consider the relationship may be over

BOB

[Bonkersy]

I'm really sorry but I'm struggling to understand how you can say that you love your partner, and yet you made a choice and decided to betray him and have a relationship with someone else.

Your partner was wrong to raise a hand (though you don't actually say that he hit you), but I'm not surprised that he has asked you to leave. In your partners shoes I wouldn't want to ever set eyes on you again. What a waste of 6 1/2 yrs.

If you genuinely regret your actions and can take full responsibility for them my only advice is to write to your ex partner and apologise. Perhaps you could also contact IAPT and undertake a course of CBT to help you understand why you behaved so badly, and how to avoid the same mistakes in the future.

[Afrohair]

Why would he help you with school can’t you help yourself?you should not have cheated and using this man this way just when you need to it’s good you have separated you have not said he hit you.what did he do?

[Passeng]

Look you have no idea about him right ..about my course and stuff like that I mean he was going to buy me a new laptop for my corse ok..

[Bonkersy in reply to Passeng]

Are you really thinking that relationships are based on lap tops? I can only hope that your mental illness is making your comments appear more self centred and shallow than your real feelings.

The way it comes across to me is that you had a kind and generous boyfriend who was planning to provide you with a new lap top.

You had a relationship with someone else, and your partner subsequently found out, and ended your relationship.

You are very upset about this, particularly because this means that your partner won't purchase you a lap top.

At a very basic level you had a contract with a second party. A condition of this contract was exclusivity for the duration of this rolling contract. As a bonus for meeting the terms of your contract, you will receive a lap top.

Contrary to the agreed contract, you breached the exclusive nature of your contract, and entered into a one day contract with a third party. You were therefore in breach of your contract, and therefore no longer entitled to the bonus.I n addition, your contract is now null and void.

Does this make sense? Hopefully you can see from this that you are responsible for the outcome, you and you alone are responsible for any disappointment that you now face.