It’s time

[bettymae]

Why is life so painful

Going through a separation after 23 years together, emotionally abused for years.

Traumatic life

Maybe I’m not meant for this world

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i sad to say find the world can be cruel, although I do feel we have been put on this world to learn various tasks, that are not that pleasant, while other life activities are actions that give us that positive vibe to keep us happy and expectant of positive things to come.

If your mood is so bad you need to make an appointment with your GP and He may be able to help you maintain positive thoughts and expectations. I am at the moment typing away watching the rain clouds collecting over the hills, very beautiful in a way, eventually when it begins to rain we loose the view although the change of mood is something positive and the rain seems to intensify the colour of the last remaining early varieties of flowering plants

If you look for beauty and consider positive things in your life you will move onto a better quality of life. Yes we are lucky although no matter where you live there will be places of interest you can visit or admire. If we have negative thoughts all the time they become habit forming and that will just make you feel worse. All I can advise is get out and about even if it is just into a park or garden centre to see the plants blossom, some with nice smells. Hazel has several Iilies outside on the Patio, they have a wonderful smell with the door open and rain about to fall

BOB

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello and welcome Betty, this is a very caring and supportive community and Bob below is a prime example of how all the members look out for one another.

It may be worthwhile before you are able to get a GP appointment to have a look around the community at the 'topic' and 'pinned posts' section. They have a lot of worthwhile information and if you feel really down, don't keep it to yourself but share with the professionals on Crisis support helplines, The Samaritan's (24hr cover everyday on 116 123) and Mind ( 0300 123 3393).

Keep chatting to us and surrounding you with hugs,

MAS Nurse & Moderator

[56artist_]

Do not think twice live for you. It sounds like me. If you were in a 23 year relationship and it was abusive why stay? I sure relate myself. I did 35 years. At 57 years old I am free and happiest ever been. You do fit in this world. You do not fit in his world with emotional abuse and low SELF-ESTEEM. I went through a one year long horrible divorce recently. I made it. I put up with abuse all those yrs because of my son. Now I am free. You enjoy your separation from abuse and his pain. Live for you. Make sure you fight for your part of assets in divorce if you get one. You deserve it. Be strong and you will get there.

[bettymae in reply to 56artist_]

Thankyou. I have a long road ahead but I’m getting the help I need. Taking one day at a time.

[56artist_ in reply to bettymae]

You just hang in there I have we all but specially us with mental problems as far as anxiety depression or whatever we all have to take it one step at a time I had a long mental illness for 40 years since 14 and I'm 57 anorexia for 40 years it is almost taking me to death many times seven years ago I check myself into treatment and I am doing very well so I still one day at a time wake up in the morning and fight the battle to never lose to anorexia again you take care of yourself yes one day at a time and I still go to treatment so you will be fine believe in yourself like I said keep looking for the bright light when we are far in the depths of the tunnel where the light is very dim we keep struggling to find our way out of that tunnel and the light does appear and never let it go them again you take care of yourself like I said sometimes divorce is the only alternative and I realize that after my first marriage of 18 years of abuse my second marriage of 17 years no more love you and be very strong and chat with me any time you need support like I said keep looking for the bright light when we are far in the dips of the tunnel where the light is very dim we keep struggling to find our way out at that tunnel and the light does appear and never let

[Erunner]

Well done for reaching out. Life's rough. No doubt about it. And it can be a very lonely road. But there are hopes dreams and rays of sunshine to balance the black. Be strong and believe in yourself