frustration

[humblebeej]

so i just started a new job last week and I've been unemployed for about six months now so getting this job meant a lot payments were due so now being able to have money helps its retail so part time work and generally what i'm use to which is fine but as i started i feel very left out like i'm being judged a lot i'm very shy and introverted and the staff i work with isn't and managers don't seem to care to help me which is frustrating because they help all the other new employees who started with me, i struggle lot with my depression i grew up with very paranoid parents who raised me with no real confidence in myself, instead of encouraging they just told me i did something wrong all they really ever did was work to provide which i understood but in turn it made me feel really scared that i would end up like them with big financial issues and alone, i just want to know how i can feel strong and not be so scared of everything

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello humblebeej and welcome to this community.

Firstly congratulations on a new job. Well done you.

For now maybe just take it one day at a time. You may find that these difficult feelings

will pass. Time will pass and you will feel much better than you feel now. Also sometimes we think people really don't like us or judge us but then it turns out we read things incorrectly.

Don't give up. It's okay to make mistakes because your new and they should understand that. If not try to tell your boss that you have questions and need help.

Good luck and please let us know how you are getting on.

MAS Nurse & Moderator

[humblebeej in reply to MAS_Nurse]

thank you so much

[sfortne]

I would make myself smile at everyone, and no matter how they treat you respond with kindness. Surely, someone will feel convicted about how they treat you and turn it around. Remember, you are as good as anyone there. I would pick one small thing you could do to show confidence and work on that this next week. Add another confident action the following week. Look people in the eye and say “Good morning” and smile. Watch coworkers and pick out a confident act they do that you admire and work to do that yourself. You can do this!

[humblebeej in reply to sfortne]

thank you hearing those kind words really help <3