Infidelity causing my anxiety

So I’ve suffered with depression through the years and in my last post I mentioned I had a bad dip when I found out my husband cheated on me a month before we got married. Plus I was 7 months pregnant at the time and found out 3 weeks after we got married by going through his phone. His infidelity destroyed me but I tried to keep going for the sake of my unborn child...I gave birth in December and I now have this beautiful baby girl and a husband who claims to be remorseful etc.. I thought once I had my daughter I’d be able to focus on her alley and forgive and forget my husband but I’m just stuck with constant anxiety and mixed emotions, I don’t know but some days I’m positive and willing to give my new marriage a go and some days I’m so low and depressed including exhausted from looking after a newborn baby. I love him and want my family to work out but I do not trust him an inch and I feel so anxious anytime his phone goes off or goes out. I feel so trapped in my mind and part of me hates him for putting me in this situation and when I do think of ending my relationship my heart just breaks at the thought but I’m so unhappy at the same time most days or I’m just numb and try stay distracted. I don’t know what to do but my mind is going crazy I’m trapped in my own thoughts and too embarrassed to tell anyone so I’m left to my own thoughts. It’s torture. I can’t afford therapy right now either so I have no one.

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi jojonb26

I wonder if it would help you to contact 'Relate' relate.org.uk/

and have some counselling with them. Relationships need to be built on mutual trust, and it seems that was lost even before you got married. I do think you need professional advice here. We can empathise, but ultimately you both need to do some long, hard thinking about your relationship. It cannot be a one-sided affair, both of you need to be mature and responsible about this and get help to make some hard decisions that are right for you both and your baby.

Take care,

MAS Nurse and Moderator

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It may be a good idea to talk to your Husband and arrange a meeting with Marriage Guidance, RELATE, to discuss how let down you feel and how the distrust is affecting your Marriage.

Consider seeing your GP, I feel talking out your problems will help you move on.

Personally I feel sorry for your little girl, She is innocent of any associated problems here. This makes it important the both you and husband need to be adult in any decisions made. In the past I went through a bad period similar, no children involved it was a lie that broke up a three year relationship.

Your GP may arrange CBT to talk out your problems, however Relate may be a good way forward

BOB