in need of advice with depression

[scarb1989]

hi people I am new to this forum and new to feeling like this. I'm at a loss and thought I need to try share. recently I have been diagnosed with depression. I am currently losing my mum to cancer it can't be treated and I had a bad motorbike accident a couple of months back. my depression has caused me to lose my partner as she couldn't deal with it anymore and I am struggling coming to terms with it all myself any advice would be appreciated

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello and welcome scarb1989 to this caring and supportive community of like minded members.

So sorry to hear that you had an accident and that your Mum has Cancer. You have come to the right place to talk as it is good to share the bad and the good with others. You don't say were you are so I am hoping that it is the UK and there is support out in the community as well as on this forum.

It is a very scary time for you and not surprising you feel down, don't be too hard on yourself, give yourself some 'ME' time. if your Mum has a Cancer care nurse ask to talk to her/him about how you can support your Mum and yourself. Ask your GP if there is a counsellor available for you to speak to (there can be a wait for this service). Also the 'pinned posts' and 'topic posts' give some invaluable advice and info. I have also included a websites too.

Keep posting on here 'scarb' as we would like to here how you are getting on. In the meantime our best wishes go out to you.

Regards,

MAS Nurse.

cruse.org.uk They have a helpline: 0808 8081677 - Mon & Friday 9.30 - 5pm. Extended hours Tues/Wed/Thurs till 8pm.

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You mention Scarb you have been diagnosed with Depression, Has your GP prescribed any medications for your condition.

Life can be a real headbanger I remember coming of my Honda C50 when I was sixteen and I remember falling of because the bus had no brake lights. I ended up sliding into the back of the bus and breaking a wrist and ankle. It really affected my confidence and I never rode the machine again, I purchased a beat up Mini and tore around in that for several years until that to was written of, caused by the car been driven into a sandstone wall.

Life is full of hard knocks, sad to say and all we can do is learn from our experiences and that makes us more careful hopefully. However it is important you lick yourself down and move onto life and its many knocks.

Losing your Partner would not help you move on, it is really sad that She could not see past your troubled times. Possible loss of first love can be very sad, however as we go through life. You will over time loose and gain man friendships until you meet the right people to continue down the pathway you will choose, the same applies to the opposite sex as you will meet someone with the same interests as your self. I did not meet my Partner until I was twenty eight, it took that long and many dates before I found the right one and now we have been together over forty years.

I am sorry about your mother, throughout life you will most probably go through so many loses given time and no matter who they are feelings of loss no matter how profound can knock us back when the person who we love passes over and moves on The expectation and futcher loss of your Mother is very sad however it will be important that you can talk out your feelings and move on. Taking to relatives and friends who knew your mother about the good, bad and sensitivities of Her life, and any positive thoughts and memories will help you move on. Others will also have memories and those will help you and them accept the loss.

If your Mother can still talk to you sit down and converse, it does help both and it means you will both have memories to share, this helps with the moving on of both of you.

BOB