A Sensitive Question About A Sensitive Topic.

[Ibbi]

So my story goes like this when I was 14 I was molested by a friend of mine who's the same age at the time ,and I'm asking if I need to talk about what happened to deal with it because I don't like to talk about it ,in fact that I'd like to forget it ,but I can't . Your thoughts?

[Stilltrying_]

I would say that it is important that you talk about it even though it probably feels very embarassing. The fact that it is still on your mind means that it has scarred you and anyway the situation is a confusing and invasive thing to go through. So i would find someone you trust with your emotions such as a school or college counsellor and explain to them what happened so you can start to process your emotions over this activity which was unwanted and put upon you without you asking and without you wanting it. Oftentimes we feel somewhat to blame even though it isn't our fault. I don't know why this happens but this is common in that you may feel that somehow there was something about you that made that happen. If this is the case I can assure you that it ONLY the other person's fault and their problem and you did nothing. It was just something they wanted to do (which was inappropriate and wrong0 and they decided to ignore your feelings in favour of their own "needs". Gemma xx

[Hidden]

Hi there, I would echo what Gemma as said and talk to someone who you can trust keeping it in will make things worse you have had courage to come on to seek advice from these people you have to remember you are the victim I hope you get the support you need, I wish you well x