I don't know what to feel

[newLife2016]

Hello Ladies. I need an advice.. I am depressed inside but very cheerful outside. I worked in a Laboratory as a Patient Care Technician. When I'm at work I feel so energized and happy but when I get home I honestly have no energy at all. So much things needed to be done but I feel like I always just started and never get it done. I am single Mom with 8 yr old Son. Ofcourse I can't show it to him that I feel depressed. I really need help. Do I need to tell My doctor? I don't want them to prescribe Me antidepressants but is there anything else I can do?

[Strongheartforever]

You’re in the health field so you may have heard of BHRT, bio identical hormone therapy. Get your hormone levels checked. Learn about severe pms, pmdd and/or hormone imbalance because with BHRT, you can balance your hormones naturally, without the risks of stroke and cancer. Your progesterone may be low, your testosterone too. Also, try cutting gluten and get your thyroid checked. Many of us are undiagnosed hypothyroid which has the same symptoms as major depression. Sounds like your cortisol is high, since you have low energy at home. Check hormones, check thyroid, cut gluten because it disrupts thyroid function, get adequate magnesium and B vitamins, work on intimacy and authenticity in relationships and self-respect and service to humanity as you do already I’m sure. Anti depressants are a band aid when it’s hormonal imbalance. They even call it “hormonal depression”. I cured mine with BHRT. I still get down but it’s normal down, not nearly as deep and dark. Functional Medicine doctors prescribe BHRT and work with compounding pharmacies. Find one. These are some ideas that came to mind. Best to you!!

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Hi dear I was a single mother for 7 years! It was so very hard. You are doing a great job! If you can get over the anti-D aversion, please know that it can really help you and make your quality of life (and your child's!) better.

Do you have friends or family to lean on? Any way of getting more of a break and getting some "you" time?

Maybe if you accidently show your child how depressed you really are, you could just say that you are sad that he is growing up so big and that you wish he would stay little forever?

Can you catch even 30 min for self-care? To read a magazine, book, or watch a self-help YouTube video? Maybe put him in the bathtub with lots of toys, put on a movie or video game? lol

You need to find a sense of community, maybe you can go to church (you do not have to believe the way they do.) They are usually very kind to single mothers, if you can find a good one. I'm sure your little boy would love Sunday School! Or is there a church bus that can come by and take him to Sunday School while you stay at home? (Maybe call some churches around and ask?)

Do you live in a big enough city to take him to the YMCA? (Or maybe there is a free or low cost after-school program he can go to so that you can squeeze in some time for yourself.)

Doing any of these doesn't make you selfish, it just makes you a kind, caring mother, because if you do not take care for yourself, then you cannot take care of him. OK?

Anyways, you really should consult your doctor ASAP. Just let them know how you have been feeling lately. If they do want to prescribe anti-Depressants, I would take their professional word for it.

I really admire and look up to single mothers! So much! You do so much!

I am here!

; )