I feel like crap and wish I could just move away from every1, I don’t no why but every1 seems to have a problem with me,

[idontno]

Feeling alone

[Stilltrying_]

You are not alone here x Why do you think it is they have a problem with you? Do you know? Are you doing anything genuinely annoying?

[idontno in reply to Stilltrying_]

I just feel like I don’t fit in, ppl in my ova half’s family are good to talk to me when it’s just me, but when they are with the rest of the family they don’t speak to me, I’m lucky if they can say hello. I don’t have any friends of my own, every1 that new my ova half b4 me seem to have a problem (the girls) like I was close with a girl that he knew for years , but then I realised that she always seemed to be causing problems between me & my ova half, she would tell him things that I had told her in confidence, & he would always take her side. Change the story so it looked like it was my fault, at work every1 seems to have friends and get along with each other. The only time males make conversation with me is to try get my number, when they don’t get it they don’t speak to me again which is fine, but at the same time , it’s annoying that no 1 can be friends with me, the females where I work all seem rude & just look at me. A few of them are actually nice but I have just had short conversations with them. When it’s break time I’m left by myself with no1 to talk to . Reminds me of when I was at school. Alone at break times . I just feel so sad .

[Suzie40]

I'm sure not everyone has a problem with you, although I appreciate it can feel that way when you can't see the wood for the trees. Has something happened or is this just a general feeling?

[idontno in reply to Suzie40]

It is a general feelin since school , I had a group of friends & 1 of them turned on me & the others followed leavin me by myself this was in yr9, I have a few close friends since then but they always let me down. Only 1 friend I had was a true friend, but something happened & now we will never be that close again , I’m sure not every1 has a problem either but it’s not just me I no for a fact certain girls have issues with me, when I have only ever tried to be nice to them, & help them out. They just seem to use me for babysitting or advice . When they don’t need anything from me I don’t hear from them. & I’m lucky to get an hello if they not alone when I see them..because I this I think I would rather have no friends than fake 1,s

[sweetiepye]

Hi , I'm not annoyed with you so here's one person on your side. When I am feeling ill used by the world, especially my friends and family . It usually turns out that I am the one with the attitude. When I am depressed or in pain I don't see things clearly and I think it's everyone but me. What are the chances others are all in a bad mood at the same time ? Much more likely isn't it that the problem lies with me. After some time passes I can see the reality. This has happened so often that I can foresee it and try to keep those feelings to myself. I know they will pass. You may be experiencing something similar. Pam

[hypercat54]

I was just going to say the same Pam! I go through spells where it seems everyone has fallen out with me and it's awful. However I finally realised it's because at times I am at odds with the world and it's me who is actually causing the problems.

Now when I realise this is happening I take great care with dealing with others until it has passed. This self awareness has helped me a lot.

I am wondering if you are a people pleaser? Many of us are and can a result or cause of our issues? People pleasers always get abused and never treated with respect. I stopped doing this when I realised it. I always try to be nice to others and kind but do put my own feelings first and not worry too much about theirs. x

[Millie09 in reply to hypercat54]

Never a true word spoken! .i could never say no to anyone, i always worried about not fitting in or scared to speak my mind.

Now that has changed, i just decided enough was enough.

I live on my own, 10yrs now since my divorce from an abusive marriage. His actions and mental torture scarred me for a very long time. No self esteem, i was diagnosed with a life shortening chronic illness.. i have good days and bad.

It is how we allow ourselves to react at times, especially when having a bad day or week. For me life is too short for worry x