Texting

My boyfriend texts his ex all the time about the kids. That I understand. But it’s about everything!!! Even silly stuff.

Is it an excuse just to text or what? It so annoys me!!

[bantam12]

Sounds like there are three in this relationship, your boyfriend must make a decision, you or the ex.

[Hidden in reply to bantam12]

Ain’t that simple when kids are involved

[bantam12 in reply to Hidden]

Sorry but you asked and you clearly have doubts. He can still be involved with his children without constant contact with his ex, many thousands manage that way.

Hope you work it out.

[sweetiepye]

He is obviously a good Father who misses his kids very much. Would you rather he walk away from them? tHIS MEANS HE WILL ALSO BE A GOOD fATHER TO ANY KIDS YOU MIGHT HAVE TOGETHER. sorry fo caps. Are you dissatisfied with something in your relationship ? He comes with his past as do you. None of us start out without a history. You seem like quite a complainer who may end up destroying a relationship that has potential Pam

[Hidden in reply to sweetiepye]

He’s the best father. And his kids are amazing. They are here with us pretty much all the time and I’m cool with that.

I’m not a complainer I’m just struggling with little bits and I don’t wanna be coz I want us all happy.

I wouldn’t be human if little stuff wouldn’t bother me.

I’m a good person and don’t wanna destroy anything.

[sweetiepye]

I'm sorry I must have sounded more harsh than I intended too. I feel like you are in a good situation , but these little complaints are going to harm your relationship. We all have them but you have to decide what you can live with and only mention the things that annoy you the most.You may not mean to complain a lot but to the person on the receiving end it seems like it. I do realize you are a good person otherwise you wouldn't care or worry about these people. They are lucky to have you. pam

[Hidden in reply to sweetiepye]

That’s alright ☺️ yeah that’s why I came on hear because I wanna stop complaining about the stupid stuff coz it will get annoying for him. So I came on here just to get my head straight. That’s all really.

Thanks Pam.

[Foof]

yes He’s got childrenYes it’s brilliant that he take such an active role as their father.

Pam is absolutely correct in His behaviour as a father.

But there is something else going on here....either he is not fully over his emotional connection to hi ex or she isn’t over it and he is enabling and perpetuating it.

Either way, he is playing with peoples emotions.

Yours.

His children’s by giving a false sense of mummy and Daddy May get back together

And his ex, either because she wants it to end and he won’t let it

Or she doesn’t and he is then being very unfair to the both of you.

My personal experience and therefore what I would do if I wa in this situation again.

Get out now. This is not going to change and if anything, it will get worse.

You are caught up in their breakup....get out of it and leave them to it.

[Hidden in reply to Foof]

That’s for your input but nah I don’t believe there is feelings involved.

The ex even bought me a Mother’s Day card from the kids of me.

Me and her are on good terms and I know my boyfriend would never go bk to her.

But thanks for that

[En1234]

I too am a bit confused by this. On the one hand you are annoyed at him txting her all the time and there is an underlying "implication" in what you are saying and the next minute you are defending her. There is nothing going on, you don't believe there are feelings involved, you know he won't go back to her and she has even bought you a Mother's Day card from the kids??...You and her are on good terms??

What is the problem then???

Would love to offer advice and help not really sure how to??

[Suzie40]

I agree with En. You've dangled the carrot and are now reeling it back in 1000 mph. Hope it all sorts itself out x