Family could be any one..

[Ghostonmars]

My sister invited me to a family function...i do not normally go but it was a good day(mental health wise) so i agreed ,wish i had never gone now...same old questions.. need a job,all in my head..etc ....any way i was told later on in the evening by a family member to leave..could not tell u how that made me feel....it felt like i had a big knife thrust into my heart...it really hurt....any way i left vowing not to attend any more family functions...it sent me in self destructive mode..the next few days well no one will ever know..feel better now but showed me any one can be family.. as long as there is love ...love is all we need...

[blackcat64013]

Hi Ghostonmars,

How disappointing for you! We can be your family here for as long as you need. There is plenty of love to go around.

Have you read the article from Oprah about dealing with your family at this time of year? It's a classic.

oprah.com/omagazine/dealing...

[Ghostonmars in reply to blackcat64013]

Thank u that means alot...they are missing out on a loving,caring, person who they will never properly know...their loss not mine...

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi Ghostonmars and welcome to the forum. I am sorry to hear you had such a disappointing experience. As blackcat 64013 has posted, please stay on this friendly forum where you will receive support from other members who understand how you are feeling. You have a lot to offer and you are not alone. Thank you and best wishes.

[Roaryl]

I'm spending nye in bed as I don't even want to face the world

[sweetiepye]

Roary, I am so sorry. You were courageous enough to go to your family and then some idiot tells you to leave. That doesn't say much for them does it ? I have noticed in my medical and mental issues that when I am at my worst so are my Doctors and nurses and any other kind of helper . One might think it's me, but I choose not to. I think they reach a point where they don't know what to do and so they do nothing. And there you are...this is when you have to dig into the heart of you and do the very best you can for yourself. It is hard and requires focus. Listen to your heart, do not listen to voices. Voices are liars, your heart is the true you.Think about what you want your life to be and inch toward it. If you haven't called for support yet , do it now. Right this very second. Pam

[custardpie]

I'm in the same boat, I don't see my mum that much when I do she drains me and I'm left feeling so insecure that's why I have to have boundaries with her, there was never a bond or respectfulness to me from her, I'll happily be on my own new year's eve. Your so right that anyone can be family if there's genuine respect and love💙

[Cara78]

So true! U can choose your friends. I'm not a bad person but my immediate family are shit to me. I accepted that my mum may have problems too and brought down my walls n she just trudged through them like the unattractive horse she is😊