No motivation

[helpful]

I've basically sat in my car today for nearly 9 hours. I couldn't be bothered to get out of it. My kids asked me to go out with them and I couldn't . I am just so fed up I don't want to do anything other than sleep. I don't have any motivation or energy and can't find anything to be happy about. I have nobody to talk to about this. My husband has no idea how I feel he says to pull myself together. I can't be bothered any longer. I'm supposed to be starting a depression recovery programme this week but I don't hold out much hope.

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Let me tell you something ????

You have the gift of life , it's precious it's bueatyfull,it's amazing.

Look at your wonderful children, the birds in the sky the leaves on the trees and enjoy your next meal .

Because I assure you ,theirs many a person right now who would give anything to be ,simply able to do the things you can ........

Depression is a state of mind ,change what you think about look around you you will be fine everything really is ok you JUST NEED TO THINK IT IS ?

Bless you.

[DMM218]

I get how you are feeling. I'm struggling to do anything at the moment. Its horrible. Are you taking any meds? I'm on anti-depressants and likely to get an increase to help motivation. It sounds as if you need support, someone to talk to and accept what you are saying. It's terrible feeling so isolated. Your husbands advice isn't helping you as he isn't getting how bad this is for you. Depression can't be cured by positive thought alone. It's an illness. Your brain isn't getting the right chemicals to produce normal mood. That's not your fault. Do you have any support?

[mysmugcat in reply to DMM218]

Great advice again.

[helpful in reply to DMM218]

I'm not on any medication and haven't seen a doctor. I self referred through iapt to go on the depression recovery course. I don't have any other family and none of my friends have been in contact for 6 months

[DMM218 in reply to helpful]

You want to message me so we can talk - u need some help. I think you should speak to gp. It's hard to accept that you can't get better on your own. You are isolated with a young family that is enough to make you feel exhausted and sad.

[MAS_Nurse]

I was so sorry to read how you were feeling, your family must have been so worried about you sitting in the car for so long. Could someone come with you to see your Doctor so that you would be able to talk to them about how you were feeling. I would encourage you to attend the recovery programme, perhaps ask someone to attend with you. Take care.

[helpful in reply to MAS_Nurse]

I'm going to try the course and if it doesn't work go to the doctors. I self referred through iapt . I don't have anyone who can come with me so I will see how it goes

[DMM218]

There is hope - you've posted here so you are still trying to get help. Have you got any support apart from your husband? I think you need a break. Often when we are looking after everyone else we don't look after ourselves. When was the last time you had a day off from being mum? When you get this exhausted/down it can seem impossible to recover but you can. But you need help.

[helpful in reply to DMM218]

I am just too tired to bother with anything. I go to work then come home and go to bed when the kids have had tea. They are late teens and don't need much from me now. My youngest has had a terrible time this year needing massive support and I think it's that that's caused me to feel how I do. I feel let down by friends who haven't bothered finding out where I am for the last 6 months. No family so no support.

[DMM218 in reply to helpful]

I'd make appmt with gp - do the course if u can but make an appmt. You aren't in depression recovery yet you sound depressed. It won't improve without help. If you've been helping son thru tough year - you've had a tough year. Stress like that affects us. It depletes our brain of essential feel good chemicals so even if u feel good u can't feel good. That needs sorting asap. Meds will give you those chemicals back or allow them to begin to be felt again. But meds alone won't cure it. You need to concentrate on you. Talk to your husband. Make contact with friends see if they are good friends or not.