I just can't seem to be bothered

I'm trying to enjoy what I love doing and it only sometimes works. Like everytime I try to watch a movie, read a book or play a game, my attention span grows short fast and I either get bored or I just think, think, think. I try to draw or do any other hobby but procrastination gets in the way and I don't do much of it unless I feel really motivated.

It seems all I want to do when I'm not out of the house is lie around, waiting for something to come. It's not productive or realistic I know. But I'm unable to bring myself to enjoy anything anymore. What the heck is wrong with me?? Am I seriously depressed and haven't noticed it? I have been depressed before so that might be it. But I just can't be bothered with anything in my spare time. What can I do to make myself motivated again?

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  • I know exactly how you feel. Im 51 and dont work due to depression/anxiety and fibromyalgia. I do a few chores and go to the gym but most of the time I just sit around with no interest in anything at all. My family keep suggesting hobbies like art or photography but I cant be bothered. I just put it down to my illness. I just go with it now.

    Take care


  • Not all hobbies are for everyone. I enjoy sitting around watching tv more than anything and I am not ashamed in admitting that.

    You might be depressed? However the best thing to do is to get yourself down to your GP and see what their assessment is?

  • The thing is, drawing has become a passion for me. I've tried to sit down so I can improve on it but either laziness or procrastination (or a mixture of both) gets in the way. Whenever I go to watch a movie or play a game, I feel like I'm wasting my time and want to go back to my passion. It's a really bad cycle!

    I'm not sure if I should go to my GP as I don't know if it's really depression or just laziness (or again a mixture of both).

  • What you have to ask yourself is: have you always been like this? Or has something change/effected you that has caused you to be like that?

    If you have always been like this, it might just be who you are!

    But if something had changed/caused this speak to your GP.

  • I'm not sure. I've always been a bit lazy and had moments of being pure bored with nothing to do but ever since I got addicted to the internet and web surfing it has seemed to increase. And I've gotten moments of depression. So I just don't know.

  • Best thing to do if you are worried is to go see a doctor.

  • On the same boat. The only thing my brain is capable of is thinking 100s unwanted thoughts a minute.

  • I feel the same, especially back when i was unemployed! I just laid on the sofa all day, bored out of my brain but couldn't be bothered to do anything! I enjoy gaming, i couldnt even lift up my laptop next to me as that was too much effort. I like watching youtube, i couldnt even be bothered to open my tablet because i just didnt feel like i could concentrate on anything and so i ended up just spacing out and next thing you know it's the evening!

    Thankfully now ive got my job it's gave me some much needed structure. It's only part time but now i can spend my weekends doing things i enjoy and i just appreciate time to myself more! I know that wasnt much help but it's just to let you know youre not alone, or lazy! We just go through some dark patches - you just need to find something to help get you motivated and happy.

  • Thanks. I just wish I had the strength to continue my passions rather than just sit about and wait for it to come. I mostly just surf the web in my spare time and while it does pass the time it leaves me more frustrated cause I just feel I wasted my time. But I'm too lazy and/or depressed to use my time better. I really feel pathetic sometimes!

  • I understand. I loved art, but since my depression I haven't picked it up since, it's too much effort! I just wait for a day where i'll get a spur of energy to do it.

  • Depression does seem to take all your energy, motivation and incentive - I'm in the same position as you, all I want to do is sit in front of the TV and watch superhero stuff. I used to work all evening on my computer projects but now I can't manage more than a couple of hours in the mornings but that really does help. If you have something you are passionate about, and can afford the time to do it, then try and get into more of a routine with that, at least you can see that you've achieved something every day. If you are any good at art, have you considered putting your work up for sale online? I wish I could draw, but the best I can do is stick men - artistic skill is a real gift.

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