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I can't continue the pain that I am suffering

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About a week ago the love of my life and I were having normal conversations over the phone and the next day she wanted to be alone for a while. I assumed she was stressed and I'm normally right about her feelings but this time she was depressed. I woke up to a good morning message and that she wanted to be alone that day. She stated that it had nothing to do with me or our relationship so I was anxious all day for a text. Finally she wanted to call me so she did. I tend to get sad when I don't get to talk to her so when she called me I sounded depressed and she calmed me down and told me what was wrong. She told me that her mother doesn't trust me and that she thinks i'm no good for her daughter, I'm "trailer trash" or "white trash" and that the only way for me to make a good career is to join the military. Her mother hates me mainly because I'm a "silent male teen who wants nothing but sex". She's a nut job who thinks because I live with my family in one big house that my life will be horrible. I was mad at this but then I found out that her mother wanted to break us up I became extremely sad to the point of crying. My girlfriend tried to calm me down again but I was thinking about to much to calm down. Eventually we had to end the call because her mother was home. About an hour later she called me again and told me that her mother doesn't want me to speak to her again but I can't just do that. My girlfriend told me that her mother knows what we have done sexually and that she hates me. I was still crying and so was she and then she had to hang up. Two hours later she called again and was really upset and angry and she said she loves me and that we will get through this and the her mother was coming so she ended the call with our last I love you. It wasn't supposed to go that way but it did. I waited four hours and then finally told my mother and asked her for help and she got mad and tried to contact my girlfriend's mother but her mother blocked my mother and my phone numer, took my girlfriend's computer and phone away from her and I haven't heard from anyone since June 11 2017. My girlfriend is 17 and I am 16 but my girlfriend is about to turn 18 in August. Please someone help me. I'm dying inside every second without her and I am willing to do anything for her.

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Anella

Wow. I'm sorry that you are going through this. I know it feels like the end but it's not. You need help with dealing with your emotions. Then you will be able to handle this situation, no matter how it turns out. Keep in mind, it may not be the end even if you don't speak with her for a while. If you both really care about each other, no one can stop those feelings that you both have.

I am including a link of an article that I know will help. It's called HOW CAN I DEAL WITH A BREAKUP? You can read or listen to the article and it even has a worksheet that you can download to help you. Emotions and relationships are serious stuff. It's important to accept help and not try to deal with it on your own. The article begins like this...“After my girlfriend and I broke up,” says Steven, “I had what I can only describe as a meltdown. It was the most intense emotional pain I’ve felt in my life.”

Have you had a similar experience? If so, this article can help you.

link for article -

jw.org/en/bible-teachings/f...

link for worksheet -

jw.org/en/bible-teachings/f...

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Johnathan_Brownie in reply to Anella

Thank you, no one else has given me advice like this.

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Crossertosser

That's pretty shitty pal. Just rock up to her house man. Can't block you from doing that. Not to mention its something a guy who only cared about sex probably wouldn't do. Try to think about what a guy her family would approve of would do.

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Johnathan_Brownie in reply to Crossertosser

Her mother is one that would try to ruin my life for even talking to her daughter. She has threatened me with stachatory rape charges. I've done stuff with my girlfriend but we are bother above the age of consent so their shouldn't be a problem. I told my girlfriend that I would never ask her for sex and her mother heard this and respected it and all of a sudden she turned from loving me to hating me. I could go on forever about this horrible situation.

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Johnathan_Brownie in reply to Crossertosser

I went to my town square today and bought her two silver spoon ornaments that "a heap of love" on one and the other says "a spoon full of understanding". I also got her these things called milk chocolate haystacks and I was going to bring them to her today but our college is closed down on Sundays.

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