Help me.

[deadflowers]

Hey there.

I didn't get any better it's been a week feeling numb/empty.

And I noticed some several things are happening to me these days. Every time when i feel depressed i have chest pain for unknown reasons at all, i also feel really empty when i'm down or depressed. I noticed that these days i'm having chest pain and empty feeling all the time. And it gets hard to breath.

I talked to my teacher about this and she kept saying encouraging words to heal me up. It did not help at all. I didn't not affect me. Most of people say encouraging words to make me feel better. Nothing helps. Nothing affects me.

I have exams next week, I don't have motivation to study nor to do anything. I don't have any energy to do my daily activities. I've been in my bed all this time. I'm just laying on my bed And its been 7 days and i'm like this.

I also want to isolate myself from others. I have no self esteem. I have no hope. My classmate keeps saying that This is just Because you have no confidence in yourself. I mean i'm being depressed and its getting worse with, chest pain, feeling of numb/emptiness. No energy nor motivation at all. I know this all can't be from low self esteem, right?

And i also suffer from self loathing, for no reason i can't love myself, I've tried a lot. Nothing helps

So please help me i don't know what to do. I don't know how to reduce this pain. I know that even if i got help from other. Nothing still affects me.

[Hidden]

Hi I am sorry you are feeling like this. We have given you a lot of good advice on your last post about seeking help from your doctor and I am not sure what else we can say to you. We do understand of course as we have all felt like that, but there is a limit to what this site can do. We cannot do it for you. It is also beyond the remit of this site to give out medical advice and there are no trained professionals on here, just others with their own mental health issues.

If you don't want to go to the doctor then how about the self help route? Look up mindfulness and meditation etc. There is a lot of info online about these.

But at the end of the day you either have to put up with it, seek medical help, or try self healing. There is nothing else I'm afraid. I wish you well.

[deadflowers in reply to Hidden]

Ok, thanks for the advice you people gave to me. I appreciate it.

I want to go to a doctor, But my parents won't let me, They will say that there's nothing wrong with me. Do you think this is all normal?

thanks anyway

[Hidden in reply to deadflowers]

Can you parents legally stop you going? Can you go without their knowledge?

[deadflowers in reply to Hidden]

Look, some people told me that this is all normal and some said it is not. So i am lost, I can't go to a doctor even if i want to, and i really want to. I live in saudi arabia. I'm not allowed to go out with out my parents.

[Clazzy78 in reply to deadflowers]

Hello.

I am sorry you are feeling so low.

Is there a reason your parents think there is nothing wrong with you? Could it be the stigma of mental health issues which scares them?

Have you talked properly to your parents about your feelings? Are you able to do that?

If you are not able to go to the doctor is there a counselling telephone number for Saudi Arabia you could call to talk to someone?

Sorry to not be more help.

I wish you all the best, and hope you get some help soon, 💗

[deadflowers in reply to Clazzy78]

Thanks for the reply. It kinda helps me when people reads my issues and try to help.

I don't know why they think that this is normal. Maybe they don't want to scare me or something, or maybe they don't know me better, That's because i isolate myself from everyone.

I tried to contact a doctor to help me. They seem so busy. So i don't know about this. And yes there's a counselling telephone number we have. I could call them if i want, but i'm really afraid of my dad since my mother left the house, i can't talk to her often. And my father would get really angry if i tried to talk to a therapist, He says i am normal and there's nothing wrong with me.

I'll try to do something with this issue.

Thanks anyway. I appreciate your help.

[AlienatedAJ in reply to Clazzy78]

I can tell you my parents always tell me 'We're in public; act normal' and 'You're abnormal' and 'You're attention-seeking' but even though they CONSTANTLY tell me there's something wrong in my head and that I'm different, they won't bother to send me to a doctor. It depresses me even more knowing my parents won't help me at all even though they think something's up. Out of all the things I've researched (which is alot), I think I may have SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder not Social Anxiety Disorder).

Maybe ask your school,or ask a relative to take you. My parents haven't done anything, but my school have got me into two systems, Cams and Ruby Girl. Maybe your school will do something for you. -Alien

[deadflowers in reply to AlienatedAJ]

Yes, I've talked to my teacher about this and she said she well help me. Its sad to know that some people helps better than our parents ( that's just my opinion)

I know that when this gets way worse they will notice it and do something about it like what happened to my ear, they didn't care until it got worse, and i'm still suffering from ear otitis until now, i think its been more than 10 months suffering from this pain.

My parents used to tell me " you're useless" "your younger sister is better than you" " you can't do anything right" "what a failure" They even lost hope in me, due to my poor school grades.

i guess this is where my low self esteem came from, but from only my parents. Lots of people destroyed my self esteem.

[Hidden in reply to deadflowers]

Ok ok I'm only trying to help. I am in the UK and obviously don't understand the culture in your country.

Unfortunately no one here can diagnose you with depression or any other health issues as we are not medically trained, just fellow sufferers who try our best to help others. We can only say what we think and try and advise and support you.

As I am obviously not helping I will now bow out of any discussion with you.

I wish you all the best.

[deadflowers in reply to Hidden]

I'm so sorry if i disappointed you, i know i'm very stubborn. It was really nice to talk to you, You helped me just by responding to my post.

It's nothing like you did not help me at all, I was really happy when you responded to my post, Knowing that i will get some help, Because usually people would ignore me.

I'm happy talking to you. It just you scared me when you asked me if i can't go out without my parents knowledge

Thank you so much for helping me.

I'm sorry if i disappointed you or something. i'm sorry but i feel really guilty of what i said.

[Hidden in reply to deadflowers]

Hi please don't feel guilty. I didn't take it personally or anything. I just didn't genuinely understand how it works in your country.

I do understand what you are saying and it is very hard never to be validated isn't it? I have been there too in my youth.

Like many of us here I like helping others, but if I feel I can't then I don't want to upset anyone and make things worse for them. That's the last thing I want to do and there are times when I and all of us have to bow out and let others take over.

You are with friends here my love as we all understand and will always listen to you.

Please forget about it and concentrate on doing what you can to make yourself feel a bit better. It's you that's important after all. I am fine

Take care.