Not sure what i want to get out of this but.....

[Turnip85]

It feels like it might help to write it down.

I've been single for quite a while now bar the odd few dates with someone which usually ends in the old "theres no real spark" rejection, this, is in my mind anyway, is down to my inability to open up and always being afraid of saying/doing the wrong thing.

I was on the end of this chat with a girl today who i've been seeing for a month or so and this time its hit me pretty hard. I've been expecting it for the past week or so and during that period i've been feeling really down, not eating, anxiety, its hard to explain but just a general feeling of impending doom.

It got me thinking that this seems the case throughout any romantic relationship i'm involved in, i get too attached and have no optimism of it actually going anywhere and she'll eventually get bored.

Anyway like i said i'm not sure what i want to get out of this but writing it down has seemed to help and its got me thinking about speaking to a professional as i fear that any future relationship will go the same way due to my negativity.

[spykey]

Hi Turnip85

Welcome to our friendly, supportive & non-judgemental forum fobdeoression!

Feel free to post as and when you need to, We will try and support you as much as we are able!

Take Care. Warm Wishes soykey🤗

[Elsibells]

Talk to someone - you're right to want to sort it out. I've been reading up on attachment styles online and it's really interesting x

[Turnip85 in reply to Elsibells]

Thanks, do you have any links to the sort of stuff you've been reading?

[Elsibells in reply to Turnip85]

blogs.psychcentral.com/impe...

[Photogeek]

Hi there are you suffering from Depression? Or is it just a relationship thing.

Hannah

[Wierdgeezer]

Hello

Turnip85

I hope you are feeling okay.

It sounds to me like there is another problem somewhere in your life that is getting you down. I'm guessing that when you do meet up with somebody your worries are getting in the way of you being able to relax with that person. This may be colouring the way you react with your friend, masking the real you, if that makes sense. Sometimes the way you are feeling can make something like a meeting feel awkward to you and not something to carry on with - even if it did in fact go well. Even if it wasn't a comfortable liaison, don't think of it as anyone's fault - sometimes it happens and everyone just moves on. You shouldn't think it's you.

You could try thinking carefully about the things in your life that make you feel low and think about what can be done about it. You may not immediately find a solution but I'm sure that knowing the problem exists can guard you against it sneaking up on you and squashing your confidence when you least need it to. You could trying talking to a trusted friend about your problem or if, like me, you aren't comfortable with that try talking to your GP. They may be able to offer advice or refer you to a counsellor who can help.

I hope this is of some use to you and I wish you well

All the best, Dave