Feeling so lost

[Colin_123]

Hello everyone , my name is Colin.

Not really sure how to start, but like you all i suffer from depression and have done for a while. Until recently I have been pretty good at hiding it.However since December 2016 , its just really taken hold its been a nightmare. Really do not feel like i can face people and the world.Any advice greatly welcome

[chloe40]

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[Satsuma]

Welcome Colin_123 This is what this dreaded illness does .. Aaaggghhhhhh .. A dark, tight grip that restricts us somewhat .. Consoling our mind and emotions into repulsive matter leaving us at the mercy of our deep black moods .. Soooooo we need to bring light and love to our lives and gratitude for the simplest of things. The darkness need not have hold when we open the door to the light and bask in the bright rays it casts .. Warming our faces and permeating into our psyche thus creating an abundance for happiness .. Listen to some music .. Light some candles and give thanks that you realise what a hold this has on your life. You can free yourself .. You deserve so much more

[WhiteAlice in reply to Satsuma]

Satsuma, where've you been? How've you been?

[Satsuma in reply to WhiteAlice]

I've been there and back to see how far it was WhiteAlice

[WhiteAlice in reply to Satsuma]

It wasn't too far, was it?

[rachelej]

Hi colin I feel exactly the same , it's hard , most days I just want to shut myself away and not speak to anyone - you're not on you're own and everyone seems really friendly on this forum

[Findingme]

I often wonder if I have depression, or social anxiety, or just anxiety about leaving the house. I have got much worse having lived in an isolated spot for many years. I would love to mix with people and live in a town but I feel anxiety about moving. I also worry that I will not be welcomed because of who I am. When you live in a house on a hill above other people, you tend to be seen as not wanting to mix with others, when the truth is often that you are there, not out of choice but because some significant person in your life wants it this way.

[Rick1on1]

Hi Colin,

Congrats on taking the first step! Accepting that you have depression is sometimes not easy for us men (with our ego's) and we keep stuffing things deeper and downer into our psyche.

There are many other steps you can take to put you on a path of recovery but the most important is to see a doctor to make sure there are no other underlying problems that need to be treated. A GP will recommend an anti-depressant and you can also go for counseling. What are you feeling right now?

Here are some actions you can do; that will you help you to cope with depression:

- Write about your anxieties in a journal. Use as many words as possible to describe what you feel and what you think is the cause. Pretty soon you should be seeing patterns with how you can change your thought process into something more positive.

- Exercise

- Keep hydrated

- Stay away from sugar and excessive amounts of carbs.

- Volunteer - this will help you to gain a sense of achievement which is invaluable for rebuilding self-esteem.

Hope this helps?

Rick1on1