Sleep

That's all I want to do, depression and anxiety/panic, I'm still spending most of my time in bed and sleeping each day away, it's making me feel worse but I'm stuck in the sleep cycle, any advice please??

[Alfiegads4]

I am going through the same as you. I sleep my life away & am so depressed & on my own a lot. I do not sleep in the nights awake thinking about so many negative thoughts. I am so tired the following day & feel so depressed I just curl up in a ball & sleep. It's not living a life, I've been like this for years. I have not left the house for years due to panic & also have a lot of serious health problems that excercabate the way I feel. I wish I could advise you but am in the same boat as you.😥

[Hidden in reply to Alfiegads4]

I'm so sorry to hear about your struggle with life, I've always had depression but its been on and off, my anxiety/panic raised its ugly head a few.years ago, then I was symptom free for about 12mths, sadly several weeks ago "boom" its back!! I've been off work for 6weeks and I've spent much of that time in my bed, I'm sleeping alot and feel completely stuck in this destructive cycle, your struggle sounds heart breaking to me and my heart goes out to you, I can only imagine how difficult life.must of been over the years, I've only been stuck in this retreat from life for several weeks, I just feel scared, I get severe anxiety symptoms, but I'm thankful for this forum and for your reply, there are so many sufferers and its of some comfort knowing we're not alone completely, have.you been offered any treatment? X

[Alfiegads4 in reply to Hidden]

Hi Thanks for your reply, I've been in a bad way this week so have not had the motivation or energy to reply. I have had two bereavements this year & it's been so hard to cope & already suffering with severe depression & nobody to talk too about how bad I'm feeling. I took a load of pills today as I feel life is not worth living. Did not even go to A&E just waiting but just feel spaced out. My husband of 40 yrs doesn't even seem to care as he's sick of me being like this! He has his own problems too much to go into, but we don't communicate which gets me down so much. I have a lot of health problems & am in a lot of pain but have to live with this for over 15 yrs. I feel so alone, my adult kids got there own lives & don't want to know. I've been a good mother to them but it's taken for granted. I spend every day on my own & cant take anymore of this lonely non existent life. I've tried every antidepressant on the market & they all disagree with me. Was on citalopram 40mg increased to 60mg for many years but developed an illness that made me vomit for 12 yrs every few weeks for 3-4 days around the clock, all bile. Was hospitalised several times & diagnosed after 3 yrs with (CVS) cyclical vomiting syndrome so my GP took me of the citalopram as she said they exarcebated the sickness. Her I am years later still the same & sleep all day so down & feeling my life is over. It's good that I can offload on this forum. I don't know where to go from here, I feel I can't cope with life anymore & just crying all the time. I don't want to go on living like this anymore there is none existent way of life :((

[Angep in reply to Alfiegads4]

Hello Alfie, I'm really sorry your suffering so!! You need a lot of help and support are you getting it? Do you have someone to talk to?

[Alfiegads4 in reply to Angep]

Hi nobody really, my husband of 40 yrs has his own problems ATM & we hardly talk. I'm completely isolated & cant cope anymore. Life is unbearable & I feel nobody cares about if I'm here anymore

[Angep in reply to Alfiegads4]

There is always somebody that cares!! We just don't always see it because we are so weighted down by our burdens. Do you have a councilor at all? Can you go to your doctors and tell them how desperate you feel?

[Angep in reply to Alfiegads4]

I see you said it made you worse having counselling, but there are good ones and bad ones out there. If one dosnt work then try another?

[Hidden in reply to Alfiegads4]

Alfie

Have you had any treatment or help with your situation? you need some support with this xxx

[Alfiegads4 in reply to Hidden]

Hi Suzie, I had counselling many years ago that made me worse. I am on a lot of meds for lots of health problems & being isolated with nobody to talk to really gets me down. I sleep most of the day & have only left the house to go to hospital in years. So it's no quality of life & just need someone who feels like I do to understand how lonely life feels. Everything is too much to cope with. I'm living a life of a much older person than I am xx

[Trev8124952]

Have suffered similar constant racing mind keeping me awake, anxiety churning the stomach etc, in the end went to my GP.

It's difficult to admit that you do need help and I had to.

Just talking about it felt like a weight began to lift from me.

What i found benefits is going to bed no later than 10.30 and taking my iPad with me, then on you tube there is some meditation / relaxation programmes to listen to with your eyes closed, once you find one that works it does actually work and you go to sleep relaxed and get the benefit from it.

I then set the alarm for 8 am and made sure I got up as much as I didn't want to, it's about getting back a sleeping pattern.

I had an awful stomach from anxiety and had stopped eating properly, as much as you don't feel like it try and get back to eating three meals a day even if they are small ones.

After breakfast try and make sure at least once in the day you get out for a half hour minimum walk, I take my dogs, cheers them up if not myself sometimes.

Then and probably the hardest is trying not to have negative thoughts and if you have try as best as you can to ignore them and find something else to focus on or why did you have that thought, writing it down and recognising it helps me, I stay away from negative conversation at work and,in the news.

Best of all though is not keeping it too yourself, counselling has been the best thing where you can sit and have a mental and thought download with someone totally independent of you and it's confidential if your GP can get you in with a local wellbeing centre....... each time it's like a weight lifted.

I have stayed away from anti depressants I didn't feel I wanted to take them and be numbed, it whatever works for you, and it's you it's all about.

[Angep]

Hi Suzie, you know you have to break the cycle!! Firstly I know it's not easy!! But you need to get up, stand under the shower get dressed, and do something! Push yourself or youl still be there next month!! Just keep telling yourself you can do it!!! Just get up and do it now you can overcome this again x

[Hidden in reply to Angep]

Thank you for replying Angep

I'm bk at work starting tomorrow, I'll have no choice but to get up then, I'm just scared of feeling anxious while I'm at work, nothing I can do though, can't stay at home forever even though I'd like too xx

[Angep]

I know, I do understand. I'm back at work Thursday I've been off 4 months but that's due to an operation. So I know what your saying because I feel exactly the same. We can do it💪 I don't get sick pay so I have too anyway. Il be thinking of you 👍😀x

[Hidden]

Well suzie482, here is what I think, for what it's worth. Try if you can just to throw some clothes on and take a short walk to blow the cobwebs away! An old cliche I know. It does help me. Nothing wrong with sleeping, but try to get out for a while if you can. It may just help break the cycle and release the happy hormones we are supposed to have!

I have had to force myself out before now believe me. Lost my dear little dog nearly 6 weeks ago, and been awful without him to walk. But I have walked dogless nevertheless! Made myself! xxx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for taking time to reply, so sorry to hear about your loss too, I lost my dog a while ago and still miss her, as for getting out, your quite right, I believe it helps, I'm actually back at work today, on a late shift so just preparing myself to go, it's forced me out of bed if nothing else haha

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Hi again suzie482, yes I scrolled down and found your updated situation! So hope today goes ok. You can only do your best remember, sorry don't mean to preach. You are not paid enough I guess to worry! Hang on in there, you are not alone! xxx Deb

[Hidden]

Thanks Debfigroll

Don't know how I'll manage to be honest? its my first day back after several week's off sick, I'm a support worker for adults with learning/physical disabilities, many have behavioural issues too, stressful at times, suppose I'm just feeling anxious and hoping I don't have a dreaded anxiety/panic episode? depression/anxiety eh, who needs it xxx