Hi, I'm a 21 year old girl who has been diagnosed with moderate depression as well as dealing with high levels of anxiety.
For the last 9 months, life has been absolute hell. My mum left my dad for another man, and abandoned us. She used to be my best friend and losing that relationship has been hard, also because of this, it had lead to the fear of me being abandoned and hurt just like my dad, which leads to the struggle with my boyfriend.
I have been with my partner for about a year and a half and I can honestly say I love him so much. He's had to deal with my anger and outbursts which he has been on the receiving end of and is still here to help me. Over the past 9 months my mental health has deteriorated, my insecurities are at an all time high and my anxiety is truly awful
when I first met my boyfriend he had been split from his ex girlfriend for around 4 months however he was still in contact because during the time they were together he had helped raise her son from a previous relationship where the guy didn't want anything to with the baby, therefore my partner stepped in and took on the role as dad. However she threatened him that if he ever found anyone else then he would no longer be allowed to see the child, pretty much in spite because he wasn't with her. So he tried to keep her sweet and stay on the right side of her, so when we began seeing each other he kept it quiet from her. 3 months down the line, she found out about us by snooping on my Facebook and social media etc and went on to message me saying that my partner had slept with her 8 times whilst we had started seeing each other. She then went on to say she had proof and basically sent me screen shots of text messages between them where he was saying that he wished things had worked it between them etc but nothing to do with having sex. I confronted my partner and he insisted that he had never slept with her since they were together and that those messages were to keep her sweet so he could still see her child because he thought the world of him.
She then turned around and cut contact anyway, even though a few weeks later she said she would allow him to see him only if she was there and it was at her house
My partner then said no to this because he thought she would then make up even more stuff to try and get between us.
The thing that gets me about this is that my partner was like oh, any girl would say that if they were jealous over their ex. But, I just can't put myself in those shoes because I don't think I would lie about sleeping with someone to hurt someone else. At the end of the day I don't know the girl but my partners family said she was a nasty piece of work.
But I feel so insecure at the moment that I'm doubting myself and what happened and I Don't know if I am over thinking the situation or not - but is it someone being malicious trying to split us up because they're jealous? Or is it someone who really loved my partner and felt led on by him and is telling the truth?
My partner insists its all lies and denies doing anything to hurt me but every time I think about this at the moment it kills me 😔 Help!