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[Phoenix2173]

Why is that when we start to feel better about ourselves there are others who seem to take great pleasure in destroying the work we've put into making ourselves better. Who will use any chink in our already crumbling armour to attack us.

[Hidden]

Hi Phoenix I don't know. I do know there are lots people like that in life. Just try and avoid them as much as possible. I do. Try and stick with supportive people.

Another way to think about it is - say to yourself 'I won't give the barstewards the satisfaction of getting to me' and go on the attack instead. Bev x

[Phoenix2173 in reply to Hidden]

I like that its good advice thanks ill stick with my friends and to hell with the nasty people I don't need them.

[Hidden in reply to Phoenix2173]

Exactly! Go girl. bev x

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Sound advice Coughalot.

[Moonmoo]

I recently had a very supported friend/short term partner but when I ended up under the hospital he just started to ignore me. Not even a kind text, in fact he says he doesn't want to talk. I think now I have been handed over to hospital care he has washed his hands of me. He says he is very busy with work but I suspect my anxiety and depression has just yet again blown another relationship and he's had enough. It makes me so low.

[Phoenix2173]

Sounds to me like he wasn't really a good friend to begin with a real friend isn't just there for the good but the bad too. They support each other they don't walk away when the going gets tough.

[Findingme]

You have to ask yourself what is their motivation. Is it in their interest for you to be down and depressed? Does you showing signs of improvement make them feel insecure, as if you are someone who, given half a chance, would be a competitor to them. I would take this as a compliment if this is the case, but I can see how difficult your situation is. The only solution I can think of is to stay focused on your recovery, but be thoughtful about how you come over to others, and do what you can to be sensitive to their feelings. These people who are putting you down must be in a bad place themselves if you can make such an impact on them purely by being happy.

[Moonmoo]

I apologise I posted on your post, that was a little selfish but the advice from everyone is very good. Let's stick with the nice folk and try to be mindful of others motives.

[Phoenix2173]

Don't appologise if it helped you to talk that's a good thing so doesn't bother me.