So my partner is still in prison, police have done an overreacted report so social services has banned kids seing there dad....another kick

[Lvmyboys]

How many kicks in life can you take before you can no longer get up or breath.. My heart is hurting so bad

[Gambit62]

Sorry to hear about all of this.

Know it is all very painful.

Did you manage to contact the people who produced that progam you saw last week? Probably don't need to phone in could send an email and probably wouldn't be too late to see if they have any research they could share with you.

May be the kids could draw a picture for their dad even if they can't go and see him

[Lvmyboys]

I emailed they've sent me a list ov support groups closest to me, I don't feel like talking now, telling people my thoughts and confused feelings and everything has ended up like this a million times worse, social services after reading first police report and just looking threw me now and saying me n the kids arnt allowed to go see him absolute no contact he can write to kids that's it, cannot see a future no more they've ripped my family apart the kids have lost there dad n iv lost my partner, he rang crying its all so unreal they don't even want him ring but I need to hear his voice no he's holding on

[Gambit62 in reply to Lvmyboys]

Just take it slow. good to have the list of support groups but also good to leave it a while until you feel ready - sometimes talking just isn't the right thing.

Sorry it is all so black at the moment. With Hannah - thinking of you.

[Photogeek]

Hi I'm really sorry for you. I will keep you in my prayers .

Hannah

[Lvmyboys]

Thank you but how do you even start a prayer? I want to ask for help I feel god Is my only hope, but then I think why wud he do this.. I send my son a catholic school n the other 2 will follow but I have no hope anymore?? Honest if you see my family to what you read on my update its so different.. Kids do everything footy practice swimming holidays trips out even down to I have to make a full blown Sunday roast with everything Sunday breakfast with everything walks parks the lot they go with nothing I feel guilty for getting ill n speaking out because ov the way we've been treated by authority's,I'd give my last penny to anyone that needed it more, I'd give my last breath if needed for my children.. Why is this happening?? Xxx

[Stilltrying_]

Hi, can I say you sound like a really nice and decent woman who through no fault of her own became ill after having to make a very difficult decision which involved your health. It seems to have been a very difficult stream of events for you since this with things going from bad to worse, but I think if you have some faith that things can come right in the end then maybe they will. Of course you are terribly distressed at the moment and I hope it is helping talking on here. Sorry I can't be of any more help ; however I can see that you are a good mother to your kids and you can be proud of that.. It doesn't sound like all hope is lost for you as I think in the long run you may get the situation sorted out and all the misunderstandings put right. Take good care, and if you want to start a prayer maybe say something simple like sitting down quietly and say "Please help me Lord. " and then your prayer may flow on from there.x

[Lvmyboys]

Thank you means a lot having people help me through seems easier on here as I don't no anyone and not speaking face to face, I hope things turn out right I really do, iv been saying Lord's Prayer in my sleep when I have these horrific night terrors and for first time last night I was calm and didn't have 1 I will start saying a prayer before bed I think and was thinking ov askin the father at school if he cud bless me n the boys maybe the house as this is we're my night terrors are wud he do that do u think iv never asked for anything g like this..! Thank you everybody jus bein there replying is helping so much xxx

[Stilltrying_]

Glad it is helping. I don't see why you couldn't ask the father at school to bless you all and the house. You could at least go and talk to him about it and see if he will do it but keep saying your own prayers too. xx

[Jeffju]

I would definately get the house blessed as that will clear anything bad that may have gone on there before you lived there.And get you and your children blessed too. I wonder if you attend Church??? I know it can be hard to go but there is always support among a church family and that could help,too.

Keep seeking out all the support that you can. The CAB may be able to help too.

All the best, Julie xx

[johnd75]

I don't think that getting the house blessed would be very helpful because it can just make you reliant on the intervention of a 'higher power' to solve your problems - when there are other, more practical things you could do to help yourself. I think that religious faith (and the help that people may find in a church community) can be a great comfort but it shouldn't take precedence over all the other steps you could take to improve your situation.