How does this happen?

[alibabe]

So last weekend I moved in with my daughter and her fiance. I have a lovely little room which she made for me. I spend my days pottering, doing some washing. That is it. How can I go from holding a very responsible job to this?

[Suzie40]

Is 'this' really so bad? I think for your daughter to make such a huge effort, she must be really pleased that you've moved in. It doesn't have to symbolise a step backwards, it could be the beginning of something new and very exciting x

[gb1943yu]

hi ali

I can empathise with you. please take this opportunity to chill out for the next few days, total relaxation of mind and body excluding as far as possible thoughts of work etc. to let your mind and body get over the shock you have had. Secondly go to Blue-Star.org or the Facebook site for Sri Vasudeva - you may find lots of answers here that surprisingly fit your situation - I have been lucky enough to meet him over here and go to one of his weekends - he is super inspirational and has very penetrating in a good way eyes.

try the breathing technique in a calm place empty your mind and breathe in deeply starting at the stomach letting it expand and working up the spine for a count of 7 then hold for 4 and breathe out from top to bottom for a count of 1. the idea is you breathe in sli8ghrly harder and shorter, wait a count of 4 between each breath operation and slower out to allow the negatives drop away then breath in positive healing etc. as you progress you may find you can lengthen the breaths and pauses in proportion. any queries feel free to get back to me been there and had the t shirt.

love and prayers

gill

[alibabe]

Thank you so much for your info. I will look at his work. Yes I start therapy today which am dreading but am sure it will help. I will have to start thinking about work, as I can not stand the lack of purpose. I need to feel I have something to feel worthwhile. But now I have my beautiful grandaughter sitting next to me, and we will go to the beach with her bike. I love my time alone with her. She is so precious

[Jeffju]

How wonderful of your daughter and family to share their house with you. Think of this as a new beginning, give yourself time to relax and enjoy the peace this brings, enjoy your family. Then, eventually, start to look for something that you want to do and that makes you happy. Just slow steps at a time , practice the breathing, (as above), even try yoga, it's great and make time for yourself. Good luck. xx