This time of year.....

[ruby4me]

Hi everyone, well normally at this time of year i am at my 'normal' self but this year i am struggling and a little bit fearful. I know the reason for this and hope you will not mind me waffling on too much!! But here goes the reason why i am feeling like this is that by the end of this year (or maybe sooner!) i will be financially wiped out. My ex who still lives in the marital home is making it impossible to sell because of the vastly inflated price, He blames the agent for not selling it and it has been on the market for four years, yes thats right FOUR years with not so much as a lick of paint! although he has rebuilt his beloved garage! As i hate being confrontational i have let this saga drag on as i had hoped we could stay on good terms, but now i know i have to 'man up' and it fills me with dread! He says he still cares for me but if he did he would surely not want me be in dire straits would he? Anyway i have got to take action in very near future, sorry for the rambling on but i find it therapeutic to let it all out, well not all because i would be writing for days!!

Big hugs to all

Ruby

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Ruby so sorry to hear your news, I would like to think you have a solicitor if you have not have you seeked any advice from the C A B or such associations. Take Care and keep off loading on here it does help. Xxxxx

[ruby4me]

Hi Erstchat thanks for your reply and you are right I do need legal advice, so it's time for this girl to get her head out of the sand and get the ball rolling! I was hoping to avoid conflict but I'm afraid it's too late for that now! It's just gone on too long!!

Thanks again stay well

Ruby xx

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I wish you luck profesional help can be valuable, even though it seems final but you cannot wait fr ever Take care xx

[ruby4me]

You're right Estchay I guess most of my problems are because I just haven 't been fully able to let go and fear of being alone, but I am alone most of the time anyway! I never realised I let myself become so dependant and controlled by him. But I'm going to act now and hopefully it won't be too ugly??

Take care x

Ruby

[Suzie40]

My ex took me to court over the sale of our house. I was in the depths of post natal depression, raising two children on my own and juggling a career. I couldn't afford a solicitor so I represented myself. I remember the day of the hearing. It was done via telephone link. I took the call on a toilet break in work, and the judge ruled in my favour.

You will find it within you to fight this. Women are like tea bags. We don't discover how strong we are until we're in hot water x

[ruby4me]

Hi Suzie, thanks for your reply I'm so glad you won your case. Gives me hope because I know if I had been the other way round with me and my ex,he would have had me out of there in no time. When we first bought the house way back he wanted to just put it In his name because he said if we ever split up he would be fairer than me. Thank god I didn't fall for that. I'm gonna make an appt tomorrow to see a solicitor and get things moving. Watch this space??

Take care xx

Ruby

[Jeffju]

You must seek,legal advice through the CAB or something as soon as. You must look after yourself and your interests. You go and show them how strong we women can be when we have to be. Go get 'em. And , as we say in NZ, Kia kaha --, stay strong. xx

[Photogeek]

HI Ruby,

You must prioritise yourself, Get Legal Advice and do whats right for you, if this person had your best interests at heart, you probably would still be together, Do not put your life is anyone else hands. Suzie is so right, so no more denial about the state of the relationship, its time to act. I would rather be lonely sometimes than be with a person who is not right for me. Women are strong, so call up your inner warrior and get started on life.

x

Hannah