Sperm count

[shivampura]

Hi guys i am hari, I am 33 years old and recently Married , while I am having sex I am not getting sperm and with in 3 to 5 min my penis going down but I am getting sperm while rubbing while watching adult movies, can any one suggest ? We are planning for baby

[Hidden]

Stop watching pornography/adult movies. They may excite you in the short term, but do give a distorted view of sex and women which can easily lead to sexual dysfunction in the real world and in your marital sex life. The potential dangers far outweigh any short term pleasures.

Your post suggests to me that you may be having confidence/stress issues.

Good luck!!

[shivampura in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your prompt reply , yes I use to watch lot of adult movies and master-bat once in a day , and as you said I am not so confident that I can satisfy my partner, and I am loosing my erection with in few minutes , pls advice to overcome this.

[Hidden in reply to shivampura]

I congratulate you on your openness and honesty. Not always easy to be so.

Are you and your wife comfortable talking openly and honestly about sex and intimacy? Some people are, whereas others find it too embarrassing and shy away from communicating on a sexual level. The more open you are with one another, the better you will be able to understand each others' needs, likes - fears even - and begin to find solutions.

How would you feel about suggesting that instead of trying to have penetrative sex, you spend time just relaxing together and learning to appreciate and and enjoy each other, but not with intercourse as the goal? Kiss, cuddle, stroke and enjoy your own and each other's body for its own sake - but don't attempt intercourse. I expect you know other ways to pleasure your wife. If not, hopefully she will feel able to guide you as to what works for her. We are all different. Take away the stress of feeling you have 'to perform' every time. At the moment I imagine every time you lose your erection during intercourse, it's reinforcing a growing fear of failure. A classic case of 'the vicious circle'.

The fact that you can orgasm and ejaculate whilst watching porn shows that physically you are functioning satisfactorily; the difficulty is almost certainly emotional/confidence/stress related.

All the best!

[shivampura in reply to Hidden]

Thank you , yes we are very close and will discuss all the issue even about sex and intimacy, and really your words giving confidence to me and I am very thankful for that 😀

[Hidden in reply to shivampura]

A pleasure!

Hope it was good practical advice and helps you both.

Good to know that you can discuss these things easily and without embarrassment.

[Marriedwithchildren]

Stop watching porn, it creates an unrealistic view of what sex is like.

If you are recently married it may be that your sex life is a new experience?

When you are with a new partner there can be alot of insecurities; but as you get to know each other and relax these insecurities go away.

Why not try to focus on her for a while and try doing other things (rather than having penetrative sex). Once you realise you can please her you may feel some of the pressure go and start enjoying it more without stress?

When you feel ready have another go.

[Hidden in reply to Marriedwithchildren]

Good reply, leecarton!

[Hidden]

Increase foreplay

[Ryanr]

I’ll agree stop knocking one off to porn it seems like you’ve watched that much porn, Your sex life is turning into a fantasy and your expecting too much from your partner if you want fake tits and women with implants and a plastic vagina and the woman to walk all over you like a door matt your with the wrong woman. If you want someone who loves you enough to marry you and what to build a family with you well you know what to do jump back into reality stop watching porn before you fuck it all up and enjoy your partner for who she is or what she looks like 👍