4.5 Months Healed Post-Circumcision - Post-Sex Soreness, Stand-Up Urination, Paying It Forward

[Arclight1979]

Hi all, it’s been a while since I put together a comprehensive update on my healing journey to-date after having an adult circumcision at 40 years old. I’m now 4.5 months healed and (generally) loving life with my new plonker. Let’s start where I normally do in these (mainly for me to get it all out of my mind) updates - where am I?

Well, the biggest shift at this stage of healing for me is the lack of thought my privates get on a daily basis. I’m simply not thinking about it as much. I’m not fiddling with it, not staring at it, and life is generally back to normal in that I’m functioning as I used to. Driving to work, going out with mates, walking places… although, I’m still not wearing jeans or boxers (the seams just drive me mad with all the rubbing on Mr Stonker’s head). Really, the only issues I have now are post-sex and post-handy shandy soreness (something I’m gonna be dealing with for a while, if everyone else’s experiences are anything to go by - it only really lasts a couple days at most), some hard bits on my scar line, my tight briefs choking off my night erections, and my growing sex drive… which has come back in full force. Really, it’s all in a good place for the time of healing. So, let’s dwell on a couple of those points.

Post-Sex Soreness - I’ll include post-wank soreness here too. It’s totally a thing I’m dealing with right now, but oddly only if I try unprotected lube-only sex, or do too much in a short period of time. Case in point - this Wednesday I had condom and lube sex with Mrs Arclight and there was no soreness. Next day, Thursday, I had a lube only wank because why not, and there was no soreness, just a bit swollen afterwards which went down in a few hours. Friday, Mrs came home from work and she tried on bikinis for holiday (she knew what she was doing) and one thing led to another and we had unprotected lube-only sex for a while, then I rubbered up for a big finish. Next two days there was no swelling, but there was soreness around the scar line, especially at the back beneath my frenulum. Now, I’m really confident the soreness was from the unprotected sex on Friday (and not 3 days of fun on the trot). I think my wound and the healing tissue beneath it just wasn’t ready for vigorous non-condom sex yet… but then how is it supposed to get used to it unless I do it? My external skin was fine, it was definitely underneath the skin in the tissue, almost like it felt bruised, and only really hurt if poked or moved too much. It’s just a thing I’ll be dealing with… doing stuff that my willy waggle dagger has to get used to, with a couple days of soreness. I know this is a familiar thing as we heal, but it is what it is. I think I need a better lube - not coconut oil - that lasts longer than Durex (which goes a bit sticky dry) if we’re gonna try unprotected again soon. All suggestions and reflections welcome here… friends, Romans, countrymen, send me your lube suggestions!

Stand-Up Urination - I’m back to normal standing up pissing when out and about. I do it all the time at home anyway, but I’m now doing it all the time when out and about. I’ve finally gotten used to my flow, how to hold my new penis (back behind the head now I don’t have a foreskin to hold there). This is just a good one… I feel like a real boy with a chopper I’m not ashamed of. I used to have a real case of ‘shy cock’ at urinals, but I’ve noticed I’m way more confident with it now. And showering at the gym - I’m one of those guys now who just takes it all off and showers - no longer bothered or trying to get home to shower. I am a man with a cuff of confidence now. Hear me roar, but don’t stare!!!

Paying It Forward - I’m settling into the role of someone who’s been through this operation and is happy to support as many men as possible who are or have had the operation too. A few of you experienced circ bros helped me, I’m paying your help forward to guys here too. Community is built by sharing and supporting, and it’s the least I can do to repay the support I’ve received. This forum is an excellent place in which I know a lot of us have found comfort and Penis Pals. Long may it continue to be that kind of place. Just stop trying to post cock pics on the forum, it doesn’t work anymore. LOL.

And that's it for this update - if anyone has any questions, queries, feedback, let me know. Sharing is caring, and for all those healing or about to have the op - you got this.

Tom.

[Man7Cut]

Hey Tom. Another great update and although I'm old enough to be your Dad, there is a lot of it I can relate to, like how uncomfortable jeans were for instance (I still have a pair that I can't wear because of the hard denim they're made from.) The post sex/wank soreness still bothers me occasionally after all this time and I still haven't found a lube that I'm totally happy with. Hopefully someone here will make a suggestion!

I used to stand very close to the urinal but that was because my foreskin problems made me dribble, so it's great to be able to stand there and let it flow.

My todger looks better when I'm on the nudist beach too.

Anyway your updates always inform and entertain (willy waggle dagger being a case in point! )

Glad you're going from strength to strength, my man.

Take care of yourself

Will

[Arclight1979 in reply to Man7Cut]

Thanks mate. Definitely feels that month 4 is the best month yet - far less twinges on a day-to-day basis and just new realities to deal with. I think my next hurdle will be trying my normal boxer briefs... but I just can't get there yet with the stupid seams. And lube-wise... all recommendations welcomed, would love to try some new stuff out.

[Man7Cut in reply to Arclight1979]

Oh yes the underwear. I still have a drawer full of stuff I bought in the hope they would be comfortable. Now I prefer anything with a double layer of fabric in the pouch to stop rubbing on the exposed glans. You're right about the lube, most stuff goes tacky, especially if you're in for the long haul. If I find anything that works better I'll let you know. Cheers

[Arclight1979 in reply to Man7Cut]

Haha, me too - I've a drawer filled half with comfy briefs and the other half filled with pants I thought would be the silver bullet of comfort only to find they chaffed my knackers, glands or were just too damn tight.

[Man7Cut in reply to Arclight1979]

Haha sounds familiar. There's a lot of underwear out there that is not designed for male equipment let alone newly exposed bits that are sensitive. Ouch!

[Omniscient1]

I'm uncut so can't share in your adventure, but it's always good to hear of folks who've had good experiences , thanks for posting.

[Arclight1979 in reply to Omniscient1]

Appreciate the comment, mate. Yeah, I feel really blessed that things are going in the right direction. At 2 weeks healed I couldn't imagine feeling normal again, but I can't to see how I feel at 6 months.

[AnonPosterLol]

Great post, probably 1.5 months in for me and everything at this point is probably back to normal for me. Only issue is the same as yours, tie to time after sexual activity the skin that connect the shaft to the head on the bottom side of the penis starts getting sore and has a slight pain sensation if I touch it. I just assume the healing is slower at the bottom side and will take more time but it's miles better than what it was in my first few updates

[Arclight1979 in reply to AnonPosterLol]

Thanks, mate. Nice, so you're well on the way to recovery. Yeah, the post-sex/post-masturbation soreness is a thing, and it apparently hangs about for a bit too. Like you, my soreness is mainly round the back just under the scar line below the frenulum - it only lasts a day (which is already an improvement from two days of soreness just a week ago) and then it's all fine again, and it's only really sore like a small bruise if poked or bumped. Other than that, it's manageable and just a thing to deal with while we heal. The whole area round the back is often the last place guys heal, so we're very much fitting into the expected healing process.