So the reasoning why I got a circumcision was because I had severe phimosis which led to pain during intercourse with my partner we've not had sex a lot although i'd really like to just that phismosis was restricting that. I've never really felt the sensation prior either as this is my first partner (Im currently 19). So anyway post circumcision and all the healing, the penis has healed really nicely and everything is a go, except now I can not feel much sensation if any at times and this is worrying me. We tried having sex 3 times but whenever I go in I go soft since there is not any sensation of me being big inside her, I feel barely anything. My penis seems like it has lost sensitivity, and I feel like the circumcision was a waste of time since I still cannot have sex.
Help on this would be really appreciated.
Thanks.
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Hi Man, things should improve for you I think you are only a few months since your circumcision. it could take up to 1 year for everything to feel normal again. get your girlfriend to play with you and use lots of lube and try different positions. you will have lost some Sensation but it should still be enjoyable having phimosis is not very nice either and when everything settles I think you will find it much better than before. how do you find masturbation do you have any problems with that.
It takes a bit of time for everything to come back to normal. it's all new to you take things slowly and enjoy each other and relax don't overthink things just let it happen. I'm sure things will improve use lots of lube.
Think for a moment about something. For your entire 19 years of experiencing how your body feels things, including your penis, not much has changed with the exception of puberty making some things more fun. You have now altered some of that feedback loop and it is going to take some time for your brain and penis to establish new pathways to communicate with each other. It won’t be overnight and it won’t all happen at once. But it will happen. Im coming up on 4 months post op and as silly as it sounds, I have had to relearn how to masturbate, something I’ve been doing for 50 + years!!! Ive also had to work with the Mrs., Lol. I can’t think of something more fun to “practice “ at. So, relax. Explore. Try new grips and positions. Most of all, stop looking to fail and start looking for new ways to succeed. Patience needs to be your new best friend. Im not completely there yet but im not giving up!
I see. You’ve lost the vast majority of inner foreskin nerves where much sensation emanates. Not sure there is a solution. You could try stretching in a way to increase the 3mm, but science has not yet proven the nerves would also grow. Trauma from surgery could be a factor. Only time will tell. You could talk to guys on foreskin restoration forums to see what they’ve done. Unfortunately, it’s a complication of circumcision which advocates hide.
Obviously reading comprehension isn't your strong suit - he said 3 CM - being from the US you may struggle with the metric system, but that is over 1" of inner foreskin.
Your kind correction is noted. Yes, we Yanks work with a much more complex system, so the subtleties of the simple system often skip our complete attention.
Uncircumcised, the inner foreskin bunches up behind the glans (if it can be retracted at all). This results in a band of maybe no more than 1 cm (half an inch) wide. Only the outer ridges of this band receive any friction or stimulation during normal sex so TheMcIndian has actually gained 2 cm net of inner foreskin width to potentially be stimulated.
However, that isn’t what he’s saying. Most often, during the initial few weeks after circumcision for retraction issues, sensitivity increases up to the point of pain. A large number report noticeable loss over time as the glans toughens. His case isn’t the usual response.
It was a response to “You’ve lost the vast majority of inner foreskin nerves where much sensation emanates. Not sure there is a solution.” In your post that IMHO was deliberately negative.
I was merely demonstrating that it isn’t the issue some people make it out to be. Intactavists and foreskin fetishists always refer to a “ridged band” and 20,000 nerve endings (a made up figure apparently) being lost to convince those circumcised as infants that they’re missing out.
The Brian Morris, James Badger and Jake Waskett followers all suffer crom body dismorphic disorder. Shame on you for trying to recruit the innocent to your sick beliefs.
I’m not trying to recruit anybody and you clearly don’t know what my beliefs are. You said you were interested in facts so I presented some. Having now started with the inevitable abusive comment, how far are you taking it?
We're both 19 sorry, yeah how do I stop the nerves i always start thinking about external factors like does it feel good for her, does my body look okay and all this and I forget about the now.
Congratulations on your circumcision! Great to hear that's it healing nicely. That is the important thing, so give it some time. Remember, it had been restricted for 19 years by a useless piece of skin choking it. The sensation will gradually return and sex will be better than ever.
You're very welcome, and your partner is very fortunate. Just be patient, and don't allow the anti-circumcsion people here make you feel bad. Your situation will gradually improve, and the sex will be better than ever. I had my circumcision done a little over four months ago, and the sex is awesome.
Make men recently circumcised feel bad, by getting them to think they made the wrong decision. Men considering circumcision will change their mind after reading the posts.
I lost so many nerves from my circumcision that it helped with better and more intense orgasms. Circumcision indeed is a happy procedure!
I’m no psychosexual expert but I have a suspicion you may have dyspareunia. I had this myself due to frenulum breve. You maybe subconsciously associate intercourse with pain which triggers anxiety and then don’t rise to the occasion.
I sympathise and don’t know what the proper course of treatment should be (caveat). However, if it were me, to prevent losing my erection I’d try tying a silk* ribbon around the base of my penis with a bow and attempt gentle intercourse that way to see if that helps.
Sex is awesome! Circumcision doesn't cure erectile dysfunction, although it sometimes helps with it. Viagra does the job. Does this clarify what happens?
Why are so you negative about men who choose circumcision? Wouldn't it be better if we tried to help one another? The guys coming here who've been considering circumcision, have already minds made up. We have little or no influence on them one way or another.
Viagra works well for many men. Is there anything wrong with that? Is there anything wrong with someone wanting to get circumcised? Why ridicule newly circumcised men? Better to show some compassion toward them.
It's about kindness and compassion. Getting circumcised, is a big and life changing decision for the men who choose to have it done. Let's give them the support they need. Maybe one day you will decide to get circumcised, and if so, then you can benefit from the support given here. I once held the intactavist position because I was in denial about my desire to be circumcised. Now that I am, my life has changed and I couldn't be happier.
Some good advice on here. Please ignore the childish squabbling !
To be honest mate things will settle down you will get use to a different feeling it takes time you have to remember you have just had the end of your penis cut the foreskin anyway it takes time as they say Rome wasn't built in a day just take things easy.
I freaked out at first too the first couple weeks after the op. Things looked and felt different. 2-3 weeks after op I tried things out; ejaculated with no orgasm and freaked out. Performance anxiety will mess you up.
In the end, I had to accept this is the new me. This may sound very difficult to do but take it from us who have gone through the process.
Forget how it used to be, accept the new you and most importantly give your body time to heal. Love making is much more than physical sex.
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