3 Months Post-Circumcision - Sex, Swelling & Therapy

[Arclight1979]

Hi all, it's me again with an update at a golden milestone on the circumcision calendar. 3 months healed now and I can't believe how quickly that time seems to have passed now - at the time it most certainly did not feel quick.

Anyway, where am I? Well, I'm feeling good, my Flappy Chappy is feeling better every day and things are beginning to return to normal. There's still some swelling (just a bit), and just some little things like crossing my legs and sitting down without thinking are more easy. I have a more positive frame of mind from going back into therapy... oh, and sex has resumed, which has helped massively. I'm walking normally, still wearing soft trousers (mainly light combat gym trousers or joggers, which can be dressed with smarter to look less slobby), and just getting back out there in the world without Vaseline and oils all over me, which was starting to get very irritating on Captain Winkie. I've stopped using any creams at all now, having got to a point where I feel like I don't need them. I'll go back to them in a heartbeat if I need to, but I'm doing really well right now.

Let's break it down...

Sex - Yep, totally doinking my wife again and loving using my new wonder cock to do so. Okay, so the first time was a little tentative with lots of lube and a condom, but it all worked fine and my wife enjoyed it - she said it felt bigger! Get in! The following times have been better each time with my confidence building. Right after, and for a day or two following, my chap is a bit swollen but not painful - I don't get any of the irritation I felt after masturbating when I was first getting back into that stuff, which is really good. Using a condom feels great, having had sex my whole life with a condom on and my foreskin rolled forward due to phimosis, the freedom from my skin bunching and any discomfort is very liberating. We were even cheeky and did a bit of unprotected sex "to see how it feels" and it felt flipping awesome. We're being sensible and taking it slow, but so far so good. This was the last big personal milestone in my mind - even being aware that there's still months of healing ahead - and I'm relieved to report that Mr Sausage rose to the occasion and has put in a fabulous show. And, obviously the sex being great, a few big orgasms and accidentally covering my wife in manly essence has been incredibly invigorating and relieved a bag load of frustrations.

Swelling - Yes, there's still minor swelling, mainly round the frenulum, but it's not uncomfortable, just a little more so after sex. It's healing nicely back there, and I'm sure is about the last place I'm waiting to go down. I'm very aware that most circ bros have reported the same place as the last area where swelling remains for a time, so I'm not concerned. I still get a bit rubbed from driving vehicles - although it's my job as a vehicle reviewer to drive so I can't really stop doing it - but I just give my fella an hour in the air when I get home and it all goes back to normal. Can't complain here. It is what it is, and what it is falls into the category of post-surgery normal issues I've seen many other men report.

Therapy - I'm a big fan of therapy having experienced a wide range of trauma and issues in my life and I decided that my negative mindset over the past 3 months needed addressing. At week 8 I started seeing my therapist again to discuss my operation and the aftermath. I just got it all off my chest - my wife has been amazing, but she's heard and seen it all in real time - I wanted to reflect and let someone else take the burden. It's helped me. I'm not pushing it on anyone, but it's worked for me and I feel far more positive. My wife has commented on how much happier I seem now, which is really what it's all about. I know I can share anything with her, but after a while there's only so many times I can waggle Captain Cocksmith about in front of her ranting about how it hurts or why were my post-op instructions so shit, etc. LOL... if my mission was to make myself sound like a fruitcake, mission accomplished.

So there we go, that's where I am. At 3 months I was told you just kind of don't think about it as much and can do so much more than even a few weeks before - it's all true in my case and I feel really blessed. Hope everyone else is doing well, I'd encourage anyone who's just had it to reach out if you have any questions or just want to shoot the breeze. I'm 3 months down and 9 more healing inside and out to go (or thereabouts) - some guys on here have been rocks, I wanna pay that forward if I can.

Cheers for now,

Tom.

[Norwich1 Moderator]

Hi. Thanks for your latest update and particularly the value of therapy. It is traumatic to have the op and things are not always as you would want them immediately, and longer, post op. Good for you to consider the whole of you and not just your penis.

[Arclight1979 in reply to Norwich1]

Thanks for that, really appreciate it. I agree, my manhood has not worked right my whole life and even changing that for the better has meant physical and mental trauma of some degree. Therapy works for me, because this kind of operation affects more than just your body.

[Man7Cut]

Hey just read your update and as usual enjoyed your way with words as well as the story of your recovery. I didn't develop a problem till middle age, which I found incredibly frustrating. I can't imagine how bad it would be to go through your whole adult life like that, so I'm really happy for you that everything is working right and you're able to do the business. Like you being able to have sex without a condom is just the best and with no pain afterwards. Take care of yourself and look forward to the next installment of Tom's new cock

[Arclight1979 in reply to Man7Cut]

Thanks, bro. I'm so pleased it's done and at 3 months I now have no regrets. I should have done it years and years ago. The future is feeling bright for Tom's Terrific Cock.

[Man7Cut in reply to Arclight1979]

I could genuinely feel for you so always look forward to reading how positive you are now. Remember you need to make up for lost time and use it as often as you can! Will

[Arclight1979 in reply to Man7Cut]

Thanks Will. I was in a bad way at one point, just fell to shit. But it's all going good now. Appreciate what you said.

[Man7Cut in reply to Arclight1979]

You're really welcome man

[AL1975]

Hi. Thanks for your update and the relevant insights. Just a few queries if you can assist

1) I was circumcised on 6th may and its been about 4 weeks. A couple of stiches are still present , some have fallen off. I can see the stich loosening and am feeling pain in the area. Did your pain reduce once the stiches fell off

2) There have been days where the sensitivity in the penis glans reduced considerably ( around the 3rd week mark ) and i felt pretty comfortable with my my glans not paining even with wearing underwear and track pants. However after pain subsiding for 2 days and me feeling comfortable it seems to resurface back with a vengeance, i resumed short distance driving as well. I had thought that the healing is going well post 3 weeks thus the reduction of pain in the glans - Did you encounter this as well

3) Most doctors say 6 weeks before sex or masturbation. However im jittery as i had a small penis and it seems even smaller now and I will wait for 6 weeks before I try to masturbate. When did you get the go ahead for masturbation & when did you actually try it

4) Around the second week i got erections with a bit of pre cum : I thought i was healing well, but now this pain. Also is 4 weeks plus with stiches normal

Thanks

[Arclight1979 in reply to AL1975]

Heya, no worries at all, I'll share my answers:

1) Yes, the pain definitely reduced as the stitches fell out. Reduced the tightness and pulling sensations. I would sometimes get sore red bumps after they fell out, but as the skin got used to the new sensations it all sorted itself out.

2) Yes, at that stage some days I would feel fine and the next I would be sore and sensitive again. It's early days and no doubt I'll have the odd day even after 3 months. All normal, buddy.

3) I was advised by my urologist to wait at least 6 weeks before anything like that. I ended up waiting 7/8 weeks and am glad I did. Resumed sex with wife around week 10. Tentative at first but building up in confidence each time.

4) I still had stitch ends dangling out around week 4. I wasn't worried because my urologist wasn't worried. They fell out eventually, and by week 5 and 6 I was stitchless. Then, around week 10 two little stitch ends popped out my frenulum, but a salt wash removed them the same day. They just fell out. Random!

I think it's important to remember we all heal at different rates, but everything you're describing sounds familiar to me. You got this, dude. Don't hesitate to message if you have any questions, whenever they pop into your head.

Tom.

[AL1975 in reply to Arclight1979]

Thanks for the revert. Most appreciated. Will keep you posted and check on any new developments - Thanks again

[Arclight1979 in reply to AL1975]

Don't mention it, happy to help a fellow circ bro. Keep us posted, mate.

[AL1975 in reply to Arclight1979]

Hi Tom : In a couple of hours will be heading to the doctor as I completed 5 weeks ,going for a follow up.

You did mention earlier that on some days you would feel fine and then after a couple of days the spot would again be sore and sensitive. Can you let me know by when you felt comfortable with feeling your glans or if somebody else touched them you wouldnt feel pain.

The reason I ask is that in my case its intermittent : post 3 weeks my glans felt fine for 2 days and then the pain was back. Similarly for the past 2 days my glans were very comfortable , no friction nothing but today the pain is back. I will be checking with my doctor though

If you can assist. Thanks

[Arclight1979 in reply to AL1975]

Yeah, no worries. I did experience good days of no discomfort and then a day or two with some, just as I was healing in the first couple of months. But by 2 months on the good days were far more in their number. I get the odd twinges still at 3 months, but they're usually a passing feeling or resolve in a day or so - usually it's after sex or masturbation, just a bit achey, nothing serious. Sensitivity of the head really dropped for me around the 2-month mark, and over the weeks up to 3 months has basically gone - although I still find trouser seams rubbing on my glands to be something I still have trouble with. Oh, and if my towel hits my glands after a shower... it's like an alarm bell going off on my plonker.

Good you're seeing your doc - I think it's all healing pains, so let the doc do their job and tell how it's going. There's lots of tissue and nerves in your penis that are all busy sorting themselves out after an operation, and it was manhandled during the operation itself.

[Arclight1979 in reply to Arclight1979]

If it makes you feel any better, my wife and I had sex last night and it was excellent (really pleased I had the operation). Every time we do it my confidence grows and that's how it should be. Today, I'm feeling a bit swollen and a little achey, but this tends to resolve after a couple of days. As I heal it's getting easier and easier.

[AL1975 in reply to Arclight1979]

Thanks for the insights Bro. This really helps. Hope my doctor also says something similar and encouraging 😀 Fingers crossed

[Arclight1979 in reply to AL1975]

Got my fingers crossed for you - keep us/me posted.

[AL1975 in reply to Arclight1979]

Hi Tom , so i saw my doctor yesterday post 5 weeks. As per him the healing is on course and there isnt anything to be concerned off. I asked him about the intermittent pain / friction in the glans and to that he said I would need to bear it for another 2 - 3 weeks as its part of the healing process.

There was one stubborn stich towards the end of the tip which he cut but didnt pull out, says the remainder of it will dissolve : i must admit it did pain when he was tugging at it, a reminder that the healing isnt complete. I was a bit surprised when he said that i can stop the saline wash , tho i plan to carry on .

The doc has advised that any sexual activity be avoided for an additional 2 weeks as the stiches took longer than expected to fall off. All in all it seems its heading in the right direction but now have to wait till the friction in the glans subsides. Have another followup with the Doc post 2 weeks 🙃

[Bburn]

Hi Tom, that's a great post. I'm due a circumcision around September time if there are not any delays, my pre op is at the end of July so hopefully it won't be long after that. I'm 42, and after having phimosis all my life I'm now having the circumcision and also require dilation due to my opening becoming narrow, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a little nervous/scared about the procedure, but at least I will be asleep through it all. My main worry is the recovery and the sensitivity, I spend most of my time at work on my feet and just a bit concerned how much discomfort I'm going to have, I will probably have a couple of weeks off work. What was the pain like and any tips on speeding up recovery.

[Arclight1979 in reply to Bburn]

Hey, thanks for the comment and question. Good luck for the operation. I think you being on this forum way ahead of time is great, you'll get to hear from all sorts of guys who've had or just had the operation. I was so nervous about the op I didn't consider the recovery - I wish I'd found this forum before the op rather than a few weeks after. Concern about recovery is normal and my best advice is to absorb what's on here so you're prepared. I had my op at 40 years old to correct life-long phimosis and preputial adhesions to my glands - so a double whammy operation just like you will have. You will experience discomfort after the op - it's a sensitive part of the body that will be operated on. It will be bruised and look beaten up for a few weeks afterwards, but it will all fade and go back to normal in time. I took a couple of weeks off work too and I'm so glad I did. For me, I didn't experience much real pain, more discomfort and most of that was effectively dealt with by taking paracetamol and ibuprofen... and Vaseline. My biggest pieces of advice are as follows in the first few weeks - swelling is the most long-term part of recovery (it will go down, but will the thing you notice takes longest to go down), try not to fiddle with it, let it get some air, don't masturbate until at least 6 weeks of healing has passed, reach out on this forum for moral support, speak to a doctor if anything seems untoward. The operation itself is simple, the recovery is a marathon, not a sprint. We all heal at different rates, and for older gents like us (I'm 40) it might take a little longer. You got this, and we're all here for support.

[Bburn in reply to Arclight1979]

Thank you for the support and great message. I'm sure I will be fine and just take the recovery as it comes.

[Moon007]

Hi This is nice to hear with your speedy recovery and wish you best of luck for full recovery. I wish I had recovered from the botched up circumcision procedure, it is now almost 17 months since this procedure was carried out. I remain completely, wholly and totally grounded with no erections, as if every nerve has been damaged and bone fractured, nothing has helped me after this procedure. There is just no energy left, cannot even masturbate, my penis is there for the sake being there, no flow of blood to maintain the erection. Once again best of luck to you.

[Arclight1979 in reply to Moon007]

Hi there. I'm sincerely sorry to hear about your ongoing problems and my heart goes out to you. All I can offer you is unwavering support here and hope that eventually you recover.

[granolalover9999]

Hi, I don't know if this may be yours' (or anybody else active in this forum) experience, but I thought it may be worth sharing just to see. I had my intervention around 2.5 months ago. Overall, everything is good, stitches fell and healed properly, and I have already become used to its new appearance (I actually like it way better!). The only thing is, when I have an erection, the line of stitches feels a little contracted or tight. It feels as if I had some sort of ring that lightly strangles that part of my penis and sometimes during erection it's annoying. When I masturbate, the lubricant helps a lot to get rid of the uncomfortable feeling, but I'd really like it to feel normal on its own. I've read some old posts about people who had something similar happen to them but they don't say if the tightness eventually went away, and I wanted to know if anyone has had it happen to them and knows if it goes away over time. Of course, I'm using the relevant oils to help the skin stretch, and I have an appointment with my doctor in three weeks anyway, but it would give me some relief to know that I'm not alone in this.

[Arclight1979 in reply to granolalover9999]

So sorry I didn't reply at the time... was looking through old posts and replies. How are you getting on now? Has the contracted feeling lifted?

[Vworp]

Apart from that it initially felt bigger (presumably due to swelling) has your wife said anything about how sex feels? Does it feel different for her? Is there any problem with dryness?

[Arclight1979 in reply to Vworp]

At 6 months healed it's definitely bigger than before. I think it's achieved its full form since the circumcision. All my swelling has gone now, but it's definitely bigger. Yeah, my wife says it is different... in size (bigger, especially the head), I'm more confident, she isn't worried about accidentally hurting me anymore, etc. No dryness, my wife is in the prime of her life and I add a few drops of lube just for my own comfort.