Very painful glans since I was born

[Koko413]

Hi, I'll be as short as possible :

I'm 20 ans since I was born, I have a very painful glans.

It's not "just sensitive", but it is concretely painful till the point I litterally can't touch it, or make it touches something solide like my boxer...

I really hope there is a solution, thank you

[xsevenx]

Do you have a foreskin? If so, does it cover any of your glans?

[Koko413 in reply to xsevenx]

Yes, it covers it completely. But I don't have any problem with uncovering my glans, I can do it easily and see it fully

[Norwich1 Moderator]

what does your doctor say about your problem?

[Koko413 in reply to Norwich1]

Unfortunately he told me he has no solution at all, which I find it pretty revolting...

[WgH420]

I think anyone with phimosis has very similar problems. I’ve just been circumcised for this exact reason. Which I’m sure you think sounds completely mad - and it is - but exposure is the *only* way I know of the reduce the sensitivity or pain you get from contact.

I don’t call it a pain, I call it ultra sensitivity but you definitely could call it pain. Put it this way, I’d rather a broken bone than it making contact with anything.

If you’re still intact (still have your foreskin) and can retract the skin fully, then it’s just a case of allowing it to make contact regularly. Now I’m cut, I’ve found Vaseline to be a HUGE help with this but I think you’d struggle using it if you suffer from phimosis.

Good luck with finding your own solution!

[SetteeSofa in reply to WgH420]

My experience precisely. I waited until I was 31 before having a circumcision and was in dread of the result, based upon my experience until then. Yes, it took time for the sensitivity to die down, but it enabled me to function normally, and any initial discomfort was short-lived.

All good wishes,

SetteeSofa

[WgH420 in reply to SetteeSofa]

God I hope I can write the same in a few months 🤣

[SetteeSofa in reply to WgH420]

I am as sure as I can be that you will, WgH420. Let me know how it goes, and look forward to a brighter future!!!

All the very best,

SetteeSofa

[Koko413 in reply to SetteeSofa]

What did you do after your circumcision ? From what I know, the only benefit (only when it comes to reduce sensitivity) is that your are forced to have your glans touching your boxer 100% of the time.

But then, can't we just do it by ourselves ? ^^

[Koko413 in reply to WgH420]

Thank you for your reply, when you say exposure is the only way, do you think it is necessary to make the glans touch something? Or it could work by simply let the glans exposed to air as much as possible ?

[WgH420 in reply to Koko413]

I’d say for me at least, exposure to air wouldn’t work. My phimosis was right in the middle of severe and non existent, in that I could expose most, if not all of the glans when flaccid but erect, I couldn’t voluntarily retract because of pain but it would slip back during intercourse, which was painful and made for some boring, careful sex. But because it wasn’t severe, I did have some exposure to the very tip, i.e. it would touch my underwear a lot. This part of my glans is now noticeably different in color and sensitivity. I think this only happened because of actual contact.

If you’re able to fully expose the glans and have the cajones to voluntarily allow it into contact with your clothes, I’d start doing that as soon as possible - it should only take you a couple of months for it to become normal (at most).

[Norwich1 Moderator]

Sensitivity is almost a given for those being circumcised because of phimosis. Did your surgeon not alert you to this before your operation? The glans should lose most of its sensitivity over time if you keep it exposed. If your glans is partially covered then the part that is exposed should be desensitised. This will take time. It is not an instant thing. Lidocaine cream might ease the sensitivity before that happens. The good news is that you no longer have phimosis.