"Painful" vs. "pleasurable" glans sensitivity after circumcision

[Yyhyyyyyyy]

This might be a really stupid and embarrassing question but I'm really confused and need some guidance.

Some context: I'm 21 years old and I got my circumcision around 6 weeks ago. Before my cut, I NEVER exposed my glans even while erect / masturbating due to phimosis. For the first few weeks after my cut, my sensitivity was absolutely through the roof. I wasn't able to start gently touching my glans until around week 3. Until week 5, I fully wrapped both the cut and my glans with Vaseline because I was very afraid of wearing underwear gauzeless. For the past week or so, I've started to wear underwear without gauze everyday (morning and night) and things have been better than expected. I position my penis upward toward my belly button and wear tight boxer briefs to keep everything from moving. I can now touch my glans with a lot more confidence than before and the sensitivity has definitely improved. I've also masturbated a few times already and have been successful. I completely avoid the glans / wound and gently tug the bottom of my shaft which worked for me.

But here's the problem. Whenever ANYTHING rubs on my glans, I am still extremely sensitive. For example, whenever I get erections, the only "pain" that I feel comes from my glans rubbing against my underwear or skin. Everything else seems to have healed well, and now it's just the sensitivity from rubbing that's bothering me.

I heard from a bunch of different people that stimulating your glans is a great way to feel pleasure during masturbation / sex for circumsized men. I really don't understand that right now. What's the difference between "pleasure" and "pain" in terms of glans sensitivity? At the moment, I can only feel the pain that comes from trying to stimulate the glans (which for me is gently touching them or accidentally getting hard and having my glans rub against my underwear or skin). I've stayed way clear of my glans even while masturbating post-op. Can someone please explain how this "sensitivity" thing works? Am I supposed to be feeling pleasure if I stimulate my glans when I masturbate? Or am I still too early in the desensitizing process to know what "pleasurable" sensitivity feels like? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Hope you all have a great day!

Oops I forgot to mention this: I noticed that whenever my glans are dry (for example after blowdrying the area after a shower), my glans feel a lot less sensitive to touch (not sure whether there's a difference for rubbing). On the other hand, when there's Vaseline residue left on my glans, touching it feels more sensitive / painful than usual. Not sure if anyone else feels the same.

[HCJ007]

Hi first of all thanks for sharing your problem. The difference between pleasure and pain is pleasure is nice soothing like you want to do it all over again. Pain is you just want to stop because it hurts or you are finding it uncomfortable to the point where it causes you more distress. Like for example that cut you have,does to look infected is it yellow are you still bleeding if so what colour is the blood? Does it leek any thing it shouldn't? You should probably take it easy on the masterbation aswell. Just for the time being.

Another thing that area is really sensitive so getting a cut would affect it. Maybe you should go and speak to your local GP and explain everything about touch and feelings you are getting. Just keep applying vaseline but not to much because it can cause more damage than good like your underwear sticking to it so it's not giving it that time to heal unless you are applying it a night where you aren't wearing anything. But if you are wearing boxers apply it like 2-3 times a week. But would recommend speaking with your GP. Dont be embarrassed they have probably seen and heard it all before nothing can faze them.

Also for got to ask how are you cleaning it because you should dab that area with a cloth or a sponge dont just put soap on it and use hot and cold water just to clean it out and also that will help with the sensitivity you are feeling down there.

Hope this helps.

[Yyhyyyyyyy in reply to HCJ007]

Hi when I say "cut" I mean circumcision hahah. Everything is healing well except for a tiny bit of swelling and the hypersensitive glans problem that I described in my post. I have not had any signs of infection post-op and the wound is healing well (all of the stitches have fallen off as well). I've stopped using Vaseline and I've also stopped using gauze. I haven't used soap to clean my penis ever since my circumcision. I shower twice a day and let the water run down my stomach onto my penis and then dry it with a hair dryer once I'm done. My underwear are tight boxer briefs so they keep my glans from moving around which is what causes me discomfort. All I want is for my glans to desensitize so that I don't have to worry about the uncomfortable sensation I feel when they rub against something. It's been almost 7 weeks and I'm getting really tired of the sensitivity.

[HCJ007 in reply to Yyhyyyyyyy]

Hi sorry when people say cut we automatically think of cuts cuts. You seem to be doing everything right ice can help reduce swelling but make sure you put it onto a cloth instead of straight onto the skin. It's only been seven weeks sure the feelings will eventually fade over time remember it's still in the healing process so you are going to be more sensitive to things down there. If it doesnt go away in about 3-4 weeks suggets a trip to your doctors and see what they can recommend for getting rid of the sensitive felling you are getting. Remember if it looks or feel any different accept the sensitivity, go to your doctor asap aswell just to make sure things are ok there. Would still go east on the masterbation for a bit. Hope this helps.

[Yyhyyyyyyy in reply to HCJ007]

I should've been more clear sorry! I think I might just be a bit impatient since I definitely feel like it's been improving slowly... my doc also says it will only get better as time goes on. And yeah, I'm gonna stop masturbating at least for a while so that it doesn't disturb the healing. Thanks for your reply!

[HCJ007 in reply to Yyhyyyyyyy]

Dont worrie we know what it's like when you are struggling with something. But at least its improving and will over time. That's good about the masterbation but remember if it gets worse or uncomfortable go back to your docs and make sure it's ok.

[KOTFrank in reply to Yyhyyyyyyy]

Researchers report that estrogen promotes keratinization callousing. Theres numbing creams as well. These may be bad ideas during healing.

[SNOOOOOOPPP]

Im 18 and I got circumcised 3 weeks ago.. I haven’t exposed my glans or anything ever due to phimosis since birth like you… it’s true that the sensitivity thing sucks… right now I’m just forcefully letting my glans rub against whtever I’m wearing, cuz I think it’s something my body will eventually get used to.. anyways after reading your post, it feels nice to know that I’m not the only one going through something like this.. I wanted to thank you for tht

[Yyhyyyyyyy in reply to SNOOOOOOPPP]

Let's get through this together mate. At the 3 week mark I could barely even touch my glans... it will get better!! I also stopped wearing gauze for about a week now and I can definitely feel some type of difference already. It might just be mental though.

[Busha]

Its actually not pain, there is no exact term for guys to term it, so we simply identify it as pain. I would say a sense of ticklish sensation where where you got hit/ rub suddenly with your clothes or with your own skin( possibly with the hairs around your pube and tihgt area) it's a sudden feeling your brain reacts among newly cut guys. You no need to worry, normal men should be able to expose his glans at least when he's inside her. Or else you just gonna play with your foreskin while gliding inside her. So this sensation will remain the same during the intercourse itself.

I would suggest, if you really healed, you can work directly on your glans, this time it not pain, however it is the real manly sensation as a men you are feeling after years your glands trapped inside that extra skin. It may feel a lot weird at first, but you'll find addiction with this soon when your newly accustomed tool get to used it. You will then know why cut men are bator- addictive guys only then. Use lube, work on your glans.