Cant ejaculate during sex after circumcision over 5-months ago

[Helphealth07]

Hi, well I feel so depressed about this condition. I am 42 never had a problem with erections or orgasm at all until after circumcision. My frenulum was removed and the stiching in that area came a little lose and bled a little then healed with this white scar tissue that feels a little rough to the touch. I have been suffering to get a hard enough erection for penetration and had to supplement with viagra just to get the erection strong enough but can’t ejaculate during sex. I tried lube and stimulating the penis gland nothing works and now I am worried this is permanent and my nerves/penis won’t heal, could it be the scar tissue just needs to soften? I am able to ejaculate during self masturbation it use to take 30-mins lately I can do it in maybe 5-mins of watching porn. However when I am having sex I can’t ejaculate and of course feel a little anxiety until the viagra kicks in that said I have been drinking a lot often before sex maybe this doesn’t help? Though pre-circumcision it never really hindered me at all. I am hoping that someone has experienced this and healed say after a year, right now it makes me feel low about myself

[Hidden]

I feel sorry for your situation. Has your doctor/ surgeon been of any help?

[Helphealth07 in reply to Hidden]

None just same old we don’t review after a circumcision (as classed as minor surgery) and told ED and my issues during sex not related to operation yet 100% before it I never had a single issue in either area! 😫

[Hidden in reply to Helphealth07]

That’s all a bit crap. Can you/ would you have counselling?

[Sfsf83 in reply to Helphealth07]

Hi mate. Have you gotten better during the years after the operation?

[Ipsquint47]

Have you lost a lot of sensation after your circumcision? This could just be the more you worry about it the more it will happen. What was your reason for circumcision?

[Helphealth07 in reply to Ipsquint47]

During sex I have no significant sensation at all, no build up or anything it’s literally almost pointless (for me) and that combined with worries of being too soft. I use to have very strong erections and sensations so losing both is a real blow to my confidence, mental and physical well-being. I had chronic issues with redness and swelling of foreskin, mild form of Balantis induced by tight forskin as a kid though of course at time didn’t have a clue. I got once issue cured only to cause two more problems which I can’t do anything about to even try to fix

[Ipsquint47 in reply to Helphealth07]

Is your circumcision a high or low? A low circumcision removes all the sensitive inner foreskin you also had your frenulum removed too which is another sensitive part. You will have lost some sensation but a lot of men on here say that they feel better after circumcision. This is one of the concerns I had when I faced the possibility that I would have to be circumcised. Luckily I don’t have the balanitis anymore. It could just be anxiety causing your issues due to the fact that you can get an erection and cum quickly during masturbation. Have you been moisturising your penis since the circumcision? Moisturising can help with the sensation if the skin is soft.

Try not having lots of foreplay or even a masturbation session with your partner without the viagra and see how it goes. Hopefully you will get used to your new penis and how it feels. Try to relax and not force your self to to think about sex just let it happen.

[Juanzo74]

I was kind of along the same boat but mine was due to hypersensitivity.. over time it’s gotten better. 2.5 years post my circumcision it’s still very sensitive. Good luck brother. It will get better stay positive though, don’t let yourself get into your own head too bad. Try to stay positive.

[Helphealth07 in reply to Juanzo74]

Thanks, as you say once it gets into your head it’s even worse. I just never felt insecure in this area and of course my mind is like “what if this never heals” it’s worrying when GP are doing nothing to explain or assure me things will get better

[8thfloorben]

I promise it is 'just in your head' and once you have managed it it will be fine again. Remember, sex is only 10% friction 90% imagination!

[Helphealth07 in reply to 8thfloorben]

Thanks for comment, interesting. Maybe it’s combination of me still healing and insecurity. When I am laid on my back my dick flops to side which it never did before so losing foreskin has altered blood flow to tip of my penis. Perhaps once I have been able to cum once it may disappear hope so guess I had amazing friction before so having to relearn

[8thfloorben in reply to Helphealth07]

Welcome and yes, there's a lot of relearning. You'll get there I'm sure.

[JustCurious10]

Agree with a few commenters. It might be anxiety/mental issues instead of physical. Maybe try a bit more foreplay and playing around before and after sex. If you can ejaculate while masturbating, then you know you have no physical problems. I'm in the same boat. Sometimes during foreplay I feel harder than when actually penetrating!!! But as long as you communicate with your partner, you both will have fun and situation could improve. It's still a work in progress for me but I feel I'm definitely progressing. Good luck bud.

[Helphealth07 in reply to JustCurious10]

Glad your progressing, how long has it been since your operation and did you have any issues with erections/ejaculation in the beginning?

[JustCurious10 in reply to Helphealth07]

Had my surgery in October so just like you, 5 months. I did not have issues with ejaculation, only the erection portion. It sometimes gets hard but not hard enough for penetration. So in those cases we play and have a good time. Sometimes I'm just eager to "perform" because, well, we are men lol! And when it doesn't work as I want, at least we found a way to still have a good time. Hopefully there will be more progress but the mental pressure really hurts some times. I think I'm easing into it better and getting better results. Hope it goes the same way for you.

[CuriousQ in reply to JustCurious10]

It might partially be mental but it's obvious that circumcision in many cases makes sex much less pleasurable. Not always but in many cases. So please stop saying circumcision doesn't affect your sex life and it's only psychological in nature when that's simply not true.

[Ferbrizo]

I’m 27, had circumcision 6 months ago and I cannot ejaculate during penetration. No problems with erections, although I lose erection after a while of having sex... it’s kinda me getting tired of the long sex lol - I can ejaculate multiple times if I’m doing it manually. I heard someone it takes a while for you to get used to the feeling and then it will feel better. As of now, I have little to no feeling at all while having sex. Sucks to be honest but I cannot do anything else but wait.

[CuriousQ in reply to Ferbrizo]

What type of cut did you get? After 6 months you should've recovered. If you're lucky another 6 months might give you back some sensitivity but I wouldn't hope for it too much unfortunately. I'm 16 months after surgery and I still feel much much less than before.

[CuriousQ]

Circumcision removes alot of sensitive skin as is shown by your need to masturbate for thirty minutes. Also as you now have noticed drinking and sex you feel almost nothing. This is because alcohol further desensitizes you. I have the same issue. I foolishly listened to people who said circumcision doesn't change much but for me it's been devastating and I'd do anything to go back in time.

[Ferbrizo in reply to CuriousQ]

I got low and loose cut. I don’t drink, well not usually more like once in a long while but other than that I don’t, neither smoke so idk what it could be for me. A lot of people have suggested about me restoring the foreskin but at the same time I’m like it’s going to take ages plus I’m not guaranteed those feelings back.

[lostdick]

I have the same terrible problem 3 months after surgery. Zero feelings when jerking of which make it hard to have an erection... I even tried with viagra with no effect. Before I had a hardon all days though I´m 49, still have the same sex drive as when I was 18. I so wish I had not done it. They removed everything without the forehead and shaft. it looks good though, like a pornstar, but looks are not everything. My wife left me for my best friend, not very understanding right but that doesn't help me. I did it for the looks as we in Sweden, protestants, don´t have it done by birth and my foreskin was weirdly long. My dick is long too but I wanted it to be good-looking. Don't do it!

[Sfsf83 in reply to lostdick]

Are you in this condition still?

[lostdick]

me to

[Whyamihere3]

I’m having the same problem I’m only 18 and this is taking a mental toll on me