Fear of being rejected because of ugly penis

[Gio80]

Has anyone had the experience of being rejected for a penis that is not smooth, has a lot of scarring from a circumcision. Mine looks horrible and I’m very scared of being rejected because of it.

[Agrandanimal]

Most people do not care what the penis looks like as long as it performs well, and in my opinion there is no such thing as an ugly penis

[Hidden]

Do tell

[Hidden]

I’ve got a very visible & rough scar, but I’ve never had any complaints. Plenty of compliments though about being circumcised! Try not to worry about it too much.

[enricom23 in reply to Hidden]

you must be american.

[Hidden]

Not a problem!

[Hidden]

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[Hidden]

You have posted about this at least twice now. It is obvious you are clearly distressed. And that’s not good.

Please ask your doctor to refer you for counselling.

Responses to your posts on here will make no difference to the way you currently feel.

[Velcro93]

Firstly , everyone is unique . Not sure as to why you consider yourself as having a horrible penis. The solution for this can be broken down as : Either go back to the surgeon and find a solution or counselling can help . If you do infact have bad scarring maybe you can be prescribed a cosmetic modality of treatment . If you do have a normal penis , counselling can help. Change starts from within . Everyone is beautiful/handsome and you are too. Hope this helps .

[Gio80 in reply to Velcro93]

Thanks for your response. I saw a few urologists to try to get a revision. They said too much skin had been taken off so a revision is not an option. The first guy I saw, a plastic surgeon/urologist took a look and said “ you can’t go out like that”. He thought it looked very bad. He was going to try to repair some of it but he wasn’t too confident and said that he hated that kind of work. I guess he didn’t want to have an unsuccessful outcome. He didn’t inspire confidence in me so I left to find someone else.

[Velcro93 in reply to Gio80]

I am sure there are still options out there even if a revision isn't an option. That's good that you left him . Probably find a person who has faith in his work and confidence with a good track record. Don't lose hope and Don consider youself ugly. All the best !

[Agrandanimal]

From showering with my dad when I was a child, I can tell that our penises look exactly the same, only difference now is that I am circumcised and he is not.

[CutAt39]

Others are going to accept your penis like how you accept their private parts and nipples. Yes, some are better than others, but for the most part, you work with what you have.

I have never rejected a woman for the size and shapes of her privates, but I have rejected because of poor hygiene and being too hairy.

Best thing is to keep your penis healthy, clean, and if you are sexually active, shaven is the best way to go for partners. If you are top notch on those, you'll be ahead of the game.

[Hidden in reply to CutAt39]

That is very true cutat39

[Garrett0606]

I agree with the member who said there is no such thing as an unattractive penis. I’ve seen many in my gym and they are all attractive.

[Hidden in reply to Garrett0606]

Same here Garrett606

[Hidden]

I really think we tend to overworry about ourselves and the penis is no exception. I always hated showing mine to anyone when I was young due to my penis being covered in fordyce spots and having a tight foreskin (which I rectified over time by stretching). It ruined my confidence for years, but then I realised that people didn’t really take any notice until I mentioned it. I actually really like having them now, gives my little fella a uniqueness!

[DJ-Invader]

Confidence brother! Whoever is gonna like you is gonna like all of you. You may thinks yours is ugly , but others may find it attractive and beautiful. Use it well. They don’t call it “bumping uglies” for nothing. After my circumcision there’s this ridge on the scarline that Protrudes and doesn’t look attractive to me. And, doesn’t appear that it’ll go away, But it drives my woman crazy as it frictions against her inner walls. What a confidence boost to see your woman scream in multiple pleasure! We’re from Mexico so circumcised men are rare in my culture. But she swears the friction inside her is intense. She was mad at me for getting circumcision but now she loves it . Before I’d initiate sex now she can’t wait for it..... and she’s even willing to get into positions I’d fantasize over so if my dick is ugly who cares it’s in my pants so not for public view nor opinion and my woman loves It and how it feels inside her and how I use it. She’s even told her girlfriends how much better our sex life is . And one her slutty hoe friends even came on to me. I didn’t cheat tho. I love my girl. The seven weeks of healing were worth it. Bible says you are wonderfully made.

[enricom23 in reply to DJ-Invader]

nonsense.

[DJ-Invader in reply to enricom23]

Cooh

[DJ-Invader in reply to enricom23]

Meant to say cool

[enricom23]

All circumcised penises are scarred. Some are more noticeable, some less, but you cannot perform that sort of procedure and expect it be scar free. There is no such thing. So yours is normal.