Only one quick Bonner after jerking off how make it last longer? Please help !!

[Jami8747]

I get only one Bonner after jerking off, how do I make it last longer? main reason never had a sexual relationship

[Hidden]

Do you get erect, enjoy masturbation and cum? What do you want beyond that?

[Jami8747 in reply to Hidden]

I mean to say after getting Bonner (within 30 seconds of masterbating) I loose all the energy and my penis shrinks

[Hidden in reply to Jami8747]

That is not unusual.

[Hidden in reply to Jami8747]

Hi Jamie, that is normal.

If you would like to have a stronger, longer erection I can help you. There’s just one simple thing that you could do if you choose to heighten your experience.

[Jami8747 in reply to Hidden]

Ye I do but it o ly last for 15 seconds that's the main problem

[Hidden in reply to Jami8747]

How long do you want your erection to continue for after ejaculation?

[Biggie_McDick]

I think that there is some confusion in your question.

do you want to last longer while erect or gain another erection quickly?

For me the answer was both.

Have you heard of "Death Grip"?

I hadn't heard the term until quite recently. This is a situation where you are used to a tight grip when masturbating. This causes extra sensation which in turn causes and 'early' ejaculation.

Have you tried masturbation with your other hand?

I tried this for years and struggled to get the combination of grip and speed right. It took me until my mid 40's before i had a left handed orgasm.

I did a lot of research and although I didn't find the name, i discovered the cause of my issues. I used to be able to go from flaccid to orgasm within 30 seconds. Not a record I am proud of although it worked for me at the time as a virgin who felt that he was unlikely to have sex, ever.

When I did my research I learned that too tight a grip was causing my issues. I started deliberately using a looser grip and this immediately lengthened the time to orgasm.

My concern though was that I would eventually find someone willing to have sex with me and as soon as I entered her I would orgasm (or even before)

I did more research, bought some toys and failed to orgasm with them. They were nothing like masturbation and didn't stimulate me enough. Time and practice helped me get there. It took me months to do it, however, when I did eventually have sex I lasted over an hour before I orgasmed. I'm not saying that i was deep inside her thrusting away. We kissed and cuddled, lots of foreplay, the excitement of undressing each other. I had previously had visions of me orgasming in my underwear when i got to touch a breast for the first time. That didn't happen though. I also didn't cum when she stroked my penis for the first time, or sucked me for the first time. When we eventually started intercourse I managed to last over five minutes, in fact, it was her requesting me to cum for her that sent me over the edge.

I hope that this long rambling answer helps you.

Feel free to ask questions, either here or by DM.