Seperation Anxiety

[K2EL]

So I am suffering from severe separation anxiety. My mom and I have been together for 21 years straight and over the past 2 years, I am feeling extreme pain when I have to leave her, even for a second. I am unable to leave or lead my life without her.

Recently she was diagnosed with Lipoma and she has to undergo surgery and will be in the hospital for 7+ days this is making me emotionally weak and causing me a lot of pain and discomfort. I am unable to leave my house and I have to be a home 24*7 until she returns and this is not helping me at all.

I really want to come out of this and be able to support my mother to go and come back stronger but my mind is effed up and I really cry every 10 seconds when I remember that she will be gone for 7 days...

I am really struggling with bad thoughts and severe separation anxiety. Any advice and help are really appreciated.

[LilyAnnepuppy]

I don’t know your story but know that this is an opportunity for growth for you. Like you said, it’s time for you to be there for your mom. Be more concerned with her needs rather than yours. I know it’s hard when depressed to focus on others but you can do it. Practice gratitude that it’s only 7 days. My husband was out of the house for two months (August/September). In the hospital and rehab. And I found strengths I didn’t know I had. Good luck and keep us in the loop.

[TiredOfItAl1]

Wish I could help in the slightest but most of my family members and me share no bond other than blood

[Dolphin14 in reply to TiredOfItAl1]

Same for me. Sometimes separating can be the best thing we ever do for ourselves.

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[TiredOfItAl1 in reply to Dolphin14]

Your right but I really need them.. to treat my disorder I need care and attention not that that'll happen tho

[Dolphin14 in reply to TiredOfItAl1]

I'm so sorry. This is much more difficult.

I had to rely on friends by the time I was 18 and chose to get away.

I hope you can find someone that supports you. We are always here for you.

[TiredOfItAl1 in reply to Dolphin14]

Yea I tried that multiple times the only person I've ever had a good bond with is my uncle who's the same age as me only a month older but he's living in Texas rn I'm in Cali every time I've tried to make friends I've been deceived and used bc my psychosis makes me delusional and easy to take advantage of my naivete I only have 1 good friend group and therye very very poor so I can't see them very often cuz they don't got any food to eat and I can't really just live with them rn my 2 sides of the family are just playing hot potatoe with me seeing who can hold the "lazy" person longer rn I think it would be best for me to somehow try to not get burnt out from work and try to get a job with my extreme symptoms somehow

[Dolphin14 in reply to TiredOfItAl1]

I wish you the best. It's not an easy road

[TiredOfItAl1 in reply to Dolphin14]

Yes thanks for your worrys 😌

[Dolphin14]

Fortunately we do have things like FaceTime now. Would you be able to connect with your mom this way?

I'm confused as to why you can't see her. Is your anxiety stopping you from leaving to see her.

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