Hi everyone

[paul1960]

Not run fir about 9weeks as my wife irene sadly passed away on the 31/3/21 so as you can imagine not feeling like running at the moment my head is telling to run but my heart is saying different I just dont know what am going to do with out her now I miss her so much it hurts

[Irishprincess Administrator Half Marathon]

Hello Paul. I’m so very sad and sorry to hear about your wife, such a heart breaking time for you and all your loved ones.

Grief is such an overwhelming world that it takes time to feel a little stronger. If you don't feel like running then don't, but when you feel you want to then that will be the right time for you. Have you been able to go out for a walk?

Take care of yourself and just remember that the running will wait and be there for you when you are ready to get out again, however long that may take.

I’m sending you strength, some peace and a virtual hug xxx

[Hidden]

Paul, take it a day at a time chap, there's no rules, no right no wrong. You know your wife was and is still immensely proud of you and your running achievements. When the times right you'll lace up your trainers again.

[Cmoi Marathon]

I'm so, so sorry to hear your sad news paul1960 . Of course you miss Irene, it's a tribute to your love and everything you shared.

Right now all you can do is be kind to yourself, and do what you did when you were first starting to run: one step at a time. One foot in front of the other. Keep going, and know that over time it will get easier.

You've achieved so much already. You can do this too. Sending you more strength, hope and a virtual hug. 🤗

[David_G Metric Marathon]

So sorry to hear this Paul1960, that must be terrible for you and your family.

We’ll all be here for you to support you however we can through these sad times.

Sincere condolences on your devastating loss. 😢

[linda9389 Administrator Marathon]

Such sad news Paul, I'm so sorry to read this. You can only take each day, one at a time and see how you feel. Eventually one day will be a better day. That day you may want to run. Until then, those runs are going nowhere, they're waiting for, for the right time. Sending you strength and very best wishes at this most awful time. Remember the good times, and one day soon you will be ready to take a step forward. In the meantime we're all thinking of you, and are always here to listen.

[RunWillie Marathon]

I’m so so sorry paul1960 🥲🙏

[Catho78 10 Miles]

So sorry to hear of your loss Paul. Thinking of you and your family.

[Irish-John Marathon]

Very sad for your great loss Paul, my deepest sympathy.

[RunningJ123 10 Miles]

I'm so sorry... How heartbreaking for you and your family...

[Decker Ultramarathon]

Ah I’m so sorry Paul. You’ll know when your head and heart align on this and then you can do what feels right. Until then there’s no right way to solve this. Just know you have a lot if friends here willing to support and listen.

[Grannyhugs 10 Miles]

Oh Paul, I’m so very sorry to hear this, my heart goes out to you. You must be hurting so very much. Do find people to talk to, if people offer help, accept it. You need everyone around you just now. Please look after yourself. 🤗🥰

[Tbae Metric Marathon]

So sorry for your loss Paul with deepest sympathy to you and your family.🙏✨

[cheekychipmunks Half Marathon]

It’s such sad news Paul, and we’re all thinking of you. I’m sure you have countless happy memories of Irene which you an look back on with fondness and make you smile again. ❤️

Remember to continue taking care of yourself. She would want that for you. So whenever you’re ready, how about a quiet run? Do it for her and do it for you. Running gives us a wonderful chance to think and also clear our minds. Think of Irene and how proud she’d be of you.

You also know you have lots of friends on here. Remember that won’t you? ❤️

[roseabi Ultramarathon]

Hugs xxx

[Week7 Half Marathon]

So sorry to read your news.Not surprised you feel unable to run at the moment. Look after yourself and one day you will get the urge to run again.

Thinking of you.

[nowster Metric Marathon]

So sorry. I know that nothing anyone can say will be any help when things are raw like that. It's not something you "get over" but you eventually will find ways of coping.

Have you been offered counselling?

If you can get out and get a bit of fresh air and sunshine (although you'd be more likely to get soaked and pelted with hail the last few days in our neck of the woods) it may help your mood a little bit. I don't mean running. That can wait until you're ready.

🤗🤗🤗

[Comfortnotspeed Marathon]

That is so very sad to hear. It must hurt very much. Take your time. It’s good to reach out when you can🌸

[Charfar]

Aww Paul I am so sorry to hear about your wife. I have followed your updates on here for awhile now and it makes me feel so sad. God bless her and you take each day at a time and always knows u have support from everyone on here xxx

[paul1960 Marathon in reply to Charfar]

Thank you just can't stop crying am in bed now alone sobbing my heart out

[Charfar in reply to paul1960]

I know it’s not the same as losing a partner but I lost my mum 5 months ago and I still don’t have a clue about things. I think u should cry, let it all out. It’s such a hard thing to get ur head round. But just do what u feel is right for you know to get through each day xx

[paul1960 Marathon in reply to Charfar]

Like you said it's so hard just feels like u don't want to go on anymore my life is over

[Charfar in reply to paul1960]

Trust me it feels like that right now, but It won’t do.. don’t give up xx

[Smile23 Half Marathon]

Hello Paul. So sorry to hear your sad news. Take time to do whats the right thing for you. Remember is also ok not to be ok. There are so many resources out there designed to help. Be kind to yourself. And breathe. You will know when to take the next step x

[Cowladyrunning Marathon]

So sorry to hear this Paul, my heart goes out to you. You can only do what feels right and one day it will feel right to run again. Look after yourself.

[Lifluf]

What sad, sad news. I'm so sorry for your loss. There's no easy way through this but I hope you have friend or family you can reach out to when you feel the need. I found running helped when I was dealing with loss last year even though I cried as I ran but you need to do what feels right for you. One day at a time Paul...

[Mormor1 Half Marathon]

Oh Paul, be really gentle on yourself, there are no rights or wrongs to how you feel, they are just feelings and they will vary. As people say, just take a day at a time and lots of rest. Grief is exhausting.

[Morethanconquerors Half Marathon]

So sorry to hear your news. When my Mum died aged just 45 my Dad actually took up running and found it a really useful way to work through his pain and grief. When the time is right I hope you find that too.

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Dear Paul so sorry for your immense sad loss. This is an awful time for you and your family and your running must wait. You need time to grieve and fully comprehend the enormity of what happened. Take your time and one step each day .

Our thoughts and prayers are with you Paul and remember we are all here for you.

Take care and god bless.🙏🙏x

[00marks Marathon]

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. I can't imagine what it would be like.

[Sandie1961 Half Marathon]

So, so sorry to hear your news Paul. Even though you knew the day would come, it is still devastating for you. Take each day as it comes, look after yourself, seek comfort with and from family and friends. You have come so far in your running journey, you will feel like lacing up your shoes again one day xx

[GoGo_JoJo Ultramarathon]

We're all with you in spirit as indeed is Irene. 💖 just go with what feels right, as with so much the runs will be there when you're ready.

[Katnap Marathon]

The running will be there for you when you're ready. And so are the forums.

Katnap

[Sandraj39 Half Marathon]

Paul, like others, I just want to say I am thinking of you during this difficult time. x

[Windoze Half Marathon]

Stay safe Paul. Thoughts are with you and your family xx

[Ellesbelles85 Marathon]

I am so sorry to read about your sad loss Paul. Take every day as it comes and don’t worry about your running- just keep reaching out and talking to others.

I hope you can find some helpful groups which can support you. Sending hugs x

[BaddieThePirate]

Hello Paul, there are no words when something this devastating happens. I hope you find some comfort in your running once you feel like going out again 💐