Don’t patronise me 🤦🏼‍♀️😂🤪

[Buckley123]

Imagine when a doctor started to question my mental health

I can see you had postnatal depression ( 11 years ago)

I can see you have had anti depressants for anxiety (8years ago) your mother died ? Of ms so you think you have ms right (smug look on his face )

My reply wasn’t one he was expecting

I had postnatal depression a lot of women do and this was 11 years ago

I had antidepressants for anxiety because you gave them to me before you done the necessary checks for pernicious anaemia and then for the next six years I’ve been B12 shots.

My anxiety lessoned

My mother died yes ! I take it your is still alive ? No? So I’m sure you understand.

You see doctor I had to pay for a privet mri scan because of all my neurological symptoms that you refused to help me with and in fact I was diagnosed with ms and then I took it upon myself to find a ms specialist privet may I add and he took away the ms diagnosis.

So no I don’t actually think I have but you still after all your years of training can not tell me what I fact is wrong.

By the way ignorance isn’t intelligence!!

As I got up too leave I said let me ask you this

If you pity me for loosing my mother and you can see my struggles in the past you have in front of you in black and white that I have had to come pay for you lack of knowledge then why as a doctor someone who has worked hard to get where you are do you have no compassion.

If I was you I’d want to help people like me

Your rude and dismissive

I will be putting in a complaint

I only went in for a thyroid blood form ..

Now I need a new gp

Just so you no this gp has been useless and ignorant for about 8 years today he got from me 😂

[honeybug]

Sooo sorry Buckley. 😭🤗💗😘🙏

I’m glad you put him in his place.

I had an allergist who treated me the same way. Was so glad to finally dump him.

I do believe that compassion should be an extensive part of their required training.

Too bad it isn’t.

Hugs love prayers and a big hooray for your assertiveness!!!

EJ 😊🌿🌸🦋🙏😘

[MEGS53]

Oh Jade, they do put you through it, don't they? I feel so upset for you, BUT you stood up for yourself today - so well done!! I hope he looked embarrassed, but my bet is that he didn't. A new GP is long overdue, so please look for one as soon as you're up to it. Big hugs from me for giving him the reality of your journey. And, complain to the practice manager asap in the first instance. xxxx

[stiff19]

So sorry 😐 yes I am in same boat of needing new gp. I wish I could say that your standing up will make them consider the way they are when dismissive but I don’t think it will.

My gp referred me to bad experience rheumy , because of rashes, leaking vessels in hands, swelling and lesions,she referred me to dermatology (rheumy cancelled to make her own)she said she’d refer me to connective tissue department (think to get me out as never happened) when I told her how awful I felt she was sympathetic and said I’m not surprised your body is attacking itself?

Rheumy said fibro even though I already had this diagnosis. Back to gp because of face dropping, rock hard arm and big hard lump leg, skin colouring, so she referred me back. Rheumy and colleague backed her said fibro and medically unexplained. Went back to gp, totally unsympathetic, said fibro offering lyrica gabapentin or list of others.

I said I already had fibro diagnosis so why when I came to you did you refer me to rheumatology in first place? She said because of your symptoms, I said exactly 😡😡 you didn’t look and say it’s your fibro causing it, when I came back with more symptoms why did you send me back, she said because of your symptoms (with tears in her eyes) I was angry and said exactly, because of my symptoms, because not invisible, because you didn’t look at what I was going through and say it’s fibro you said I need referring, I said keep your tablets and left.

Not nasty by nature I had to go back week later and I said I’m sorry if I upset you it was not my intention but I can’t see you as gp with this discomfort between us, she said that’s ok , Thankyou for apologising it’s just so frustrating, I said if you think it’s frustrating then you have some idea of how I feel .

From then I thought it would go better but all I get is it’s fibro have you taken the lyrica,

No

Why not

Because I took before and amitryptiline and gabapentin and did nothing so I learned to cope and was until all these symptoms flared together.

Put in a complaint, I doubt it will get you anywhere but they need to know.

The main thing is I hope it cleared it off your chest and made you feel better as at the end of day that’s what counts you.

Why on earth do they think we go 😡

Wishing you well x

[maggielee]

👏👏👏 What an amazing response to your mistreatment & big hug as being pushed to that point sounds oh so stressful on you.

I remember once when I was young, my dad shared with me, after a confrontation with our long-term family doctor, due to my health issues, it made him seek a new family doctor. He said that change of doctor actually helped him to find a better doctor who in the end helped him address his progressive heart problems later & allowed him more years of life....

Wishing you a successful search of a more caring doctor & thanks for sharing....ml

[KayHimm in reply to maggielee]

It is interesting how these things work out.

[maggielee]

It was nice of my dad to share it, as I was a teenager feeling guilty that they felt they had to change doctors & that insight much later really was amazing how things can work out, sometimes unknowly...😊