Non- lupus post!
So I got in a bit of an upset state this morning because sometimes when I talk to my parents they have a go at my tone when I don't intend have one/ do but not a sassy one.
This particular incident my dad asked when I was leaving for work, I replied "soon?" Emphasising the "oon" sound. He then snapped at me saying "I was just asking". I then replied a bit upset "I was just telling you". This seems to happen a lot when I am giving an uncertain answer like "not sure" or "dunno". They take my genuine uncertainty as sass. I get confused because no one else I talk to reacts this way or takes what I said as sassy, my friends often tease the way I say these things.
I will work on the way I respond to them and I talked to my mum this morning trying to explain it and she said that sometimes it sounds like I'm being sassy and defensive. I told her that I am not meaning to be. We still love each other and I am feeling better but is there a way to explain it to them?
I tried by saying asking me more questions and to not have a go at me straight away. Example of how it could be solved by asking me more questions:
Dad: when are you going
Me: dunno?
Dad: but within the hour?
Me: yeah
Some of you on here may have some advice I hope! Either as a parent or when dealing with parents