Advice on talking to parents

[Penguintaz]

Non- lupus post!

So I got in a bit of an upset state this morning because sometimes when I talk to my parents they have a go at my tone when I don't intend have one/ do but not a sassy one.

This particular incident my dad asked when I was leaving for work, I replied "soon?" Emphasising the "oon" sound. He then snapped at me saying "I was just asking". I then replied a bit upset "I was just telling you". This seems to happen a lot when I am giving an uncertain answer like "not sure" or "dunno". They take my genuine uncertainty as sass. I get confused because no one else I talk to reacts this way or takes what I said as sassy, my friends often tease the way I say these things.

I will work on the way I respond to them and I talked to my mum this morning trying to explain it and she said that sometimes it sounds like I'm being sassy and defensive. I told her that I am not meaning to be. We still love each other and I am feeling better but is there a way to explain it to them?

I tried by saying asking me more questions and to not have a go at me straight away. Example of how it could be solved by asking me more questions:

Dad: when are you going

Me: dunno?

Dad: but within the hour?

Me: yeah

Some of you on here may have some advice I hope! Either as a parent or when dealing with parents

[suzannah16]

me too. I get that all the time with my parents. Maybe when I talk to other people they feel the same as my parents but are too polite to say anything. I don't feel like I am being snappy with people but may be it is my fatigue and frustration with myself coming through.

[Penguintaz in reply to suzannah16]

Yeah, my friends are brutally honest though and they point out if I am rude/ silly or anything which I appreciate!

I know this is probably a miscommunication between me and my parents where they think I am being super sarky like a teen and to me I am just throwing in a little sillyness that my friends laugh at.

I need less sass and they need to not snap at me if we work together I think it'll be okay, we are all adults and I want to talk to them like adults (though I know it will always be a bit different with parents!)