Hi been suffering with right head pain neck & shoulder pain head has been goin numb & cold from right side been to GP before he said i think you got mental health issues & what do you want me to do same thing again been suffering four days been back to GP same response he said i think you have mental health issues i said yes i have mental health issues but what that got to do with my pain & problem aw well he had increased my Gabapebtin getting fed up its coming up to my Dad memorial on 15.12.18 fours years it doesnt get any easy living without loved 1 sorry if im goin on here .......
WHO IS MENTAL : Hi been suffering with right head... - LUPUS UK
Sorry to hear that. I’ve been previously fit and well - suddenly I contracted a disease where I’m losing bone and it a lot of pain and impaired. GP after GP has told me it’s anxiety/all in my head so I got my partner to come with me and say: no it’s not in her head - I’ve seen it as well. Now they’re asking if other ppl have noticed the changes and they’re doing everything they can not to investigate it and explain away my symptoms. Weight loss! Except the scales show I’ve gained weight - weight loss doesn’t show huge hollows around your eyes.
I am sorry to hear how insensitive your dr is. It sounds as if you could have tendinitis. I started with neck head and shoulder pain with numbness. You need ultrasound on it Physiotherapy and a recommendation with occupational therapy as they can get you into their pain clinic programme. I think the problem is once diagnosed with a mental health problem they seem to treat you differently I know as I have depression and an anxiety disorder. You clearly are not right as they ignoring what’s wrong. You need a treatment plan and they have a duty of care to provide it. What about getting a change of Drs or seeing a different gp. It’s sad to say any one of us can have a physical or mental health condition and we just need the right care to get well. They can’t give you that so you have to search for the right dr. I changed Drs and even went to stay at a friends house and signed on with her dr as a temporary patient which you are entitled to do and got far better treatment. I hope you get sorted out. Am so sorry to hear about you losing your father. I lost my mum 5 years ago and it doesn’t just go away. What about counselling or here in wakefield they have turning point which provides talking therapies which is essentially groups or one to one. Find out what’s available in your area and am hoping you get the help that you so rightly deserve.
I should have also said, I agree with your other responses. Take someone with you. Husband, partner, mother, sister, friend. Anyone who can stand up for you and say, it’s not in her head and it’s about time you took her seriously. Unfortunately there are still medical professionals out there ready to label women as hormonal and hysterical, rather than try to work out exactly what is wrong with them. I have taken my husband to a few appointments over the years and doctors took him seriously. At one he told them I was very ill and he wanted to know what they were going to do about it. It was a productive appointment. Sad but true.
I agree with you Wendy39
I’ve run into this problem for over 50 years. It’s a shame women are discriminated against especially in this matter. One other point I wish to add I discovered is if you go for your visit as usual best dressed full make up and best hairdo you will be judged on appearance first. If you look too good to be ill you’ll be judged as a liar. Try going in clean but casual attire no makeup and washed but not styled hair. If you look bad you’ll be perceived as feeling bad. It worked for me. Just in case your support person can’t make the appointment with you.
Best wishes for a successful outcome like that.
I have numbness in both arms when I sleep on my back, really scary to begin with. Apparently numbness is fairly common in Lupus. I also have a left sided headache most of the time, the reason for the headache is less clear, but the rheumatologist wasn’t interested, the GP got my neck scanned as she thought that might be the cause, it didn’t turn anything up and now I just have to live with it as another part of Lupus.