Hi there, this is my first time posting a message on a forum. I don't even know if this is appropriate as its not anything to really do with having lupus per se but rather the effect the diagnosis has had on my life.
I had my first flare in the summer of 2015 following the somewhat surprising end of a 5 year relationship. That flare was pretty shocking and turbulent and as for so many lupus patients, I went undiagnosed as a 'mixed ct issue', but since then I have been lucky to be seemingly well controlled with hydroxychloroquine... I then met someone around 9 months ago, and was shocked at myself for how easy and good the relationship felt. I was feeling really positive about life and the future, but during the time of our relationship the diagnosis of lupus came to light with the various blood tests and some discoid lesions giving the rheumys a clearer picture.. and within 2 weeks of hearing about it he ended our relationship over the phone. I've tried really hard to understand this but am struggling to come to terms with it. I couldn't imagine leaving someone I cared for just as they had found out of such a shocking diagnosis. I really don't want to, but I'm afraid I'm losing faith in people not being able to look past this label that I now have. I'm so lucky to have an amazing family/close friends support network but I cannot imagine meeting anyone now, given that someone who claimed to have loved me and was planning a life with me could leave me so easily.