My partner was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer (nsclc) in June 2009. He has had Chemotherapy, Radiotherapy & Tarceva. It has now spread to the spleen & he goes for a bone scan next week as they think it has also spread to his bones.He started taking the new unlicensed drug Afatinib yesterday & so far no side effects! He has been told that the side effects can be more severe than Tarceva. I really hope this drug works for him as we are fast running out of options. He never complains & takes it all in his stride, I feel guilty as I am not coping very well just now & can't seem to snap out of it. I would welcome any advice or suggestions of how to cope. I'm not very good at blogs but I hope that it might help writing things down.