We have to get on with it.

[Virgi]

I am new on 'Health Unlocked.

I am so sorry your husband could not accept the cancer verdict as soon as he was told, it is such a help. My lung cancer was discovered just over two years ago, and I accept it right away.

My view on life as always being 'That's life' and it has stood me in good stead. I pray he can come to terms with the cancer. I was stage four right from the beginning, I didn't know you only get help when it is at that stage.

My husband cannot accept it, he has to before I pop off or he will have a rough time.

Never say 'why me' it's just a waste of time, and makes it harder to deal with, none of us know when we will go. Take one day at a time, it's the best thing to do, otherwise time will just go, and we will wonder what have I done, nothing we would have just moped around wondering 'why me.' I was given intravenous chemo but that was stopped after two goes of it, I have tablets Getfitnib Arrisa which I find wonderful.

Virgi R.

PS. No phot at the moment my hair has a mind of it's own Ugh!

[ninjananny]

Hello Virgi

My husband was diagnosed with Stage IV NSCLC in October 2016. This week is the 2nd week of his fourth and final cycle of chemo and tomorrow he has the last of 20 sessions of radiotherapy. He cannot have an operation to remove his tumour as it is too close to his heart.

When we were first given his diagnosis and prognosis, it hit us like a train. After many tears and hugs we came to the decision that there was only one way forward, a positive attitude. It has helped us to accept our reality. Some days are still quite surreal but we soon get back on track.

Last week we learned that the tumour has reduced considerably so we can now concentrate on creating wonderful memories to treasure forever.

I wholeheartedly agree with you, none of us knows how long we have and cancer is a harsh reminder of just how precious time really is and what really matters.

Reading your message has given me a lot of inspiration at a very difficult time as my mother was admitted to critical care on boxing day in the early hours. She is just showing signs of recovery but this week has been a rediculously tough one.

Thank you for sharing your feelings, it has helped me a great deal this morning.

My daughter brought a little wall plaque for me this Christmas, it reads "Don't count the days, make the days count". It has taken pride of place on my kitchen shelf and acts as a little reminder every day.

Wishing you many happy memorable days and again, thank you.

Fond regards

Judy

[Virgi in reply to ninjananny]

Hi ninjananny, Thank you for your reply. I can't do hearts and flowers there not helpful. I totally refuse to go this year, both my real dad and my mother died at 78 so I have got my fists up to fight the good fight. My beliefs help me too. You see I do not believe in going to heaven, your are dead and scattered, I wait for Jesus to return and to be resurrected to life in my own body but without any infirmities. The wind scatters us but the Father knows exactly where we are. I hope this does not embarrass you what I'm saying, people don't always like others saying what I'm saying. My prayers are for your husband and you. God bless you.