Hi all
I’m writing this out of desperation and am probably clutching at straws. I would like some advice on whether there is any more I should / could be doing to help my Dad or just accept that there is nothing more that can be done.
He was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer in May 2018. It had spread to his lymph nodes and abdomen. He was given chemo and radiotherapy to help keep it under control. Until about 2 weeks ago he was doing really well and still working. However he has deteriorated quite rapidly in the past 2 weeks and the latest scan confirmed it had spread further. The consultant has said that he can’t have any more treatment as he isn’t strong enough and it could make him worse.
He was previously told if he relapsed they would look into immunotherapy for him but this now doesn’t seem to be an option.
My question is, should we push for further treatment or accept what we are being told and just make my fathers last days as comfortable as possible? I know I should trust the experts and I’m sure they are right but i had hoped immunotherapy could have been an option. He is only 62 which is why I’m finding it so hard to accept.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Hi,
I am so sorry to hear your sad news.
My mum was diagnosed with Stage IV July 18. She sadly passed away September 18.
Sometimes you just have to except that this awful, ruthless disease has won.
I wasted so much energy fighting on her behalf in those couple of months. Although I obviously didn’t realise how quickly the end would come.
Spend time with your Dad. Tell him you love him. Hang on to every word he says because when my mum told me for the last time she loved me I didn’t realise it would be the last time. This time for you now is very very precious.
Put your energy into your dad just now, later on you will need it just to get through every day.
Cry, laugh, reminisce.
These last few days or weeks will be tough but you can do it for your Dad.
Be strong.
Take care,
Sonia