Earlier this year my fiancé and I was faced with the reality that I am infertile. Before the news, we were trying for a year. Due to no results and the constant pain I was in. I was in and out of doctors offices with no answers. By March I had undergone two Laparoscopic surgeries one being the Salpingectomy that lead to the removal fallopian tubes.
No one plans for these life changing events and we were snapped back to reality real fast. Although we are at the beginning of our journey, we don’t take lightly the struggles we have ahead. I will have to undergo IVF to conceive naturally. Let’s be honest IVF isn’t cheap but there is nothing we wouldn’t do to become parents. Due to my surgeries and also some fibroids and cyst I haven’t been working.
At this moment all proceeds will go to helping us make baby Burris and also helping with medical expenses. Being that my fiancé is the only one working. During this process I want to bring awareness to infertility and make it look good while doing so. I have accepted that I am 1in 8. I stand with my head high hoping that you will be open to supporting this important cause not just for me but for men and woman all over the world.
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Hi hun. Thank you for being this open with all us. I'm looking forward to reading the story of yours. I'm not new to infertility myself. Here's some of my background. Years ago dh was diagnosed on low motility and sperm count. I have always had severe endo. Married for 10 yrs, actively ttc for 2 yrs before finally saw a fertility expert. Tried rounds ICSI but with no luck. Then were both adviced to turn to donor egg as the last resort. Having already spent a fortune, we began looking onto more affordable paths, like Ukraine etc. and places where egg donation is legal. It took us 3 shots DE IVF to conceive our boy. #1 - failure, #2 - early mc. I used to have that one person that I feel like I can't shake my resentful feelings about. I wish I didn't have them, but it is a family friend so no matter what, I am always seeing parts of the family and they have honestly treated me differently. I think that plays a huge part too. I get that people really don't know what to say or do, but it's just so frustrating. They're the type too that just post on social media and say the things that couples say that truly had no struggle whatsoever to get there. So I'm wishing you to be strong. All the very best from the bottom of my heart. xx
Hey there, we're among de ivf'ers too. This very venue led us to having adorable twins
I'm sorry it took you numerous shots to conceive afterall. God blesses us for waiting though.
We waited for less than 3 weeks for the end of donor matching program. I guess it's quite fast. Couples at other clinics have to be on long waiting least before having a glance at donors. And I'm sure rare clinics offer 3D photos and introductive videos to their patients. All those videos are extremelly useful way of communication with IP. May I ask where in Ukraine did you pass treatments? I currently hear different opinions on the situation at fertility clinics there..
Thanks for sharing your story. It’s so disappointing every month. But what I kept remembering after going through failed treatments before my son was, each month led me closer to him. Hard to think about in the moment. But after 2 years I couldn’t let the bad news get to me anymore and it was my way of coping. Having a game plan always kept me hopeful. Waiting in between is always torture!! I'm praying for your good luck.
Where are you passing ivf? Are you using own eggs?
I cannot speak positively enough about our experience at BTC we got. We underwent surrogacy VIP program there. Were very lucky to have our little boy after the first shot. Found every single staff member, that we dealt with, to be professional, friendly and respectful.Having just completed 1 round at the clinic, we can not hesitate in recommending it enough. The care, empathy we were shown made our journey a lot easier. The professionalism by all staff was always consistent. We felt well informed of each process to be undertaken. We were treated with the utmost respect and understanding. I'm happy for everyone achieveing this fertility success day by day.
Of course there are lots of reasons why ivf might not work. No one can say accurately why it didn't work if so. One should stay realistic not to get disheartened later. Still true experts will do everything to invent the most effective treatment path. You also have to make sure you trust the place and staff you're with. BTC guys will stay in my memory forever. We're so much thankful for what they did for us. I wish everyone the best for the new year. May all the struggling people get their LOs in the families as soon as possible. Everyone deserves the best.
Thanks for your story. I had bilateral salpengectomy due to ectopic pregnancies and am also in same position. I am currently on my 3rd cycle IVF hopefully egg collection Friday and I pray and hope. Just be strong and if this doesn't work out there are always other options and opportunities. 🤗
It's usually 1 year of ttc with no luck for ladies up to 35 yo, and only half a year in their 35+ yo. Before infertility testing, your doctor or clinic works to understand your sexual habits and may make recommendations based on these. In some infertile couples, no specific cause is found (unexplained infertility). Infertility evaluation can be expensive. Sometimes involves uncomfortable procedures. Many medical plans may not reimburse the cost of fertility treatment. Finally, there's no guarantee - even after all the testing and counseling - that you'll get pregnant. This is the hardest though. So surrogacy might be the best solution in some cases. I undestand the toughness of the situation. Thankfully, there are lots of options nowadays. You can move abroad to apply for treatments. I myself turned to BTC for help. It's a hospitable well equipped place with nice professional stuff. It's located in Kiev. Among the pros of using this country: #1 surrogacy friendly law. Your baby's considered to be yours after the moment of conception. #2. affordable prices. #3 Easy exit process.
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How do you cope with this?
using donor eggs after 6 failed cycles
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